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Consensual Non-Consent 

Also know as rape play. In the BDSM community, consensual non-consent is a mix of role playing and an extreme power exchange in which one person is “raped” by another.
Consensual non-consent is not actual rape, instead it is a BDSM scene heavily discussed between the two parties with established boundaries and safe words. It is requires complete trust between the people involved and is safe, sane, and consensual.

It is also often used by rape survivors to help cope with their trauma.
My boyfriend and I did a consensual non-consent scene last week and I felt much better after it.
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Consensual non-consent 

To consider someone's feeling and ask them for consent to deny their consent
Partner 1: I won't to try something different to day
Partner 2: sure 😃
Partner 1: Can I get your consensual non-consent before we begin
Partner 2: Get out of my house I'm calling the police

Post Non Consensual Sex 

The type of sex where afterwards you regret your decision and wish you had said "No".
Friend 1: "I went to this party the other night and I ended up doing -something-"

Friend 2: "You wish you said 'No' now huh?"

Friend 1: "Yeah..."

Friend 2: "Post Non Consensual sex gets you every time bro..."

non consensual streaming

When a streaming service i.e. Hulu or Netflix auto plays a Movie or TV show you would never agree to willingly watch--and then you realize Comcast is going to charge you for streaming something that never should have been a thing--EVER!
Non consensual Streaming is when after binging every episode of Homicide Hunter in existence, and several documentaries Netflix auto plays the family friendly kids movie Trolls...

You didn't like trolls as a kid, why?! Just...why? Netflix?

....

Are you drunk?

Non-consensual hugging 

In short, in American Football, a synonym for a “holdingpenalty
#86, non-consensual hugging, 10 yard penalty, first down

Non-consensual public relations

Relations conducted on behalf of institutions without the informed consent of the public prior to being related.
When Geldstar needed somebody to lie on their behalf, It was the violation of the public's trust and safety when they hired a firm specializing in non-consensual public relations

Consensual Nonconsensuality 

The act of giving the consent while pretending not to consent (in BDSM). This term was coined by Biaman Basu in The Commerce of Peoples: Sadomasochism and African American Literature. This action involves two participants and their willing to test the waters. For example, one partner pretends not to like being tied up while the other pretends to force it. Another example, in literature, is reading a text that is fragmented and irritating, but still stimulating. Both parties agree ahead of time as to what lines cannot be crossed, but can still be taunted, and as always, a safe word is used to ensure protection.
Before the play scene:

Bob: I'm going to beg you to stop whipping me, but please don't.

Sally: Ok, I've got your consensual nonconsensuality.

During the play scene:

Bob: Oh Sally! Please stop! You are hurting me!

(Sally doesn't stop)