A term used to refer to those perceived as going out of their way to fit in with/appeal to members of a dominant group within their society. The pick-me is usually a member of a marginalized group within that society.
“Yes, let’s criticize the so-called pick-me and not the system of oppression that leads a person to putting the desires of others ahead of their own dignity.”
by Verbal assassin September 10, 2022

by realkawaiipineapple2145 October 6, 2022

1. A person that will go through extraordinary links to be noticed.
2. A woman that will disrespect, degrade or belittle other women for the approval of men
3. A woman that insists on other women holding each other accountable
2. A woman that will disrespect, degrade or belittle other women for the approval of men
3. A woman that insists on other women holding each other accountable
“We as women need to hold each accountable accountable for behaviors that are detrimental to the black community”
(This woman would be called a “Pick me”)
(This woman would be called a “Pick me”)
by The Average Black Man Show May 20, 2022

Person 1: i need a pencil
Person 2: ok ask Isabella
Person 1: nah she is a pick me
Person 2: ok ask mia Leigh
Person 1: shes also a damn pick me
Person 2: ok ask Isabella
Person 1: nah she is a pick me
Person 2: ok ask mia Leigh
Person 1: shes also a damn pick me
by Darkness652 March 9, 2024

Pick me girl: oh no!! I'm stuck and I need a man to help *she is clearly not stuck*
Some guy: girl your a pick me-
I did my best example soo
Some guy: girl your a pick me-
I did my best example soo
by Cheesiiii May 4, 2025

Usage:
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like psychopathic chickens; exploitative or despising men, want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.
Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
Shaming:
Any loving a man female being shamed by the seething flock of arrogant/snobbish control freak women - she doesn't place above him. (her commitment to the daily choice to love = loyally serving/submitting/tolerating/etc being useful to him - to add to his life, not harm it; not having others on the same level or above him in any way)
Anyone on any level sub to man or not hating men - supportive and pleasing to be with, instead of: impudent, greedy, demanding, egotistical, hedonistic, hubristic, transactional, harmful.. - overall repulsive, expecting simping/slaving for them.
Pecking at her like psychopathic chickens; exploitative or despising men, want to manipulatively impose control upon them (it's all the projections they say about men, but in reverse, being a twisted, incapable of empathy, parody on masculine herself), placing their flock of women above the man.
From either leftover women or insecure women with (naturally too empathetically biased for fem) men they've 'trained' to be an expendable utility. Destructive to any other relationship, that doesn't give them attention or follow imposed template - normalizing hers, they'd probably call you that.
Popularized on tiktok - a mental institution catalog / personal diary of deranged women.
Hypocrisy call-out:
Virtue signaling female, that fakes to love a man for attention or other gain - similar to thot/tradthot. Like looking for soft life pseudo-trad bimbo-for-hire gold diggers.
by veinsofgold April 27, 2025

by SpongeBob the Goat 15 April 5, 2022
