Someone called Jan Jaap is bound to like younger girls. People of his age won't fulfill his appetite, he needs to look to younger girls to relinquish his thirst. Jan Jaap's will always call you out for being counter-productive and get very annoyed about timing.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.