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he him lesbian by fat gay chooch March 9, 2018
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He/Him lesbian
a he/him lesbian is a lesbian who uses He/Him pronouns, they’ve sparked a lot of discourse because a lot of people accostiate He/Him pronouns with men, which yes a lot of men use He/Him, However gender is defined as “Gender is the range of characteristics pertaining to femininity and masculinity and differentiating between them. Depending on the context, this may include sex-based social structures and gender identity” while pronouns are defined as “In linguistics and grammar, a pronoun is a word or a group of words that one may substitute for a noun or noun phrase”, so therefore you can use be any pronouns and be any specific gender identity + also a lot of arguments against He/Him lesbians is “the only time lesbians used He/Him in history was to pass off as men for safety”, which yes there was a lot of lesbians that did that, however historically speak there was lesbians who did that because they felt disconnected from their womenhood, so therefore you need to chill out
person: “you can’t use he/him and be lesbian because he/him pronouns are only for men”
a he/him lesbian: “pronouns and gender by definition are completely two different things also you aren’t lesbian you need to stop speaking over lesbians voices”
a he/him lesbian: “pronouns and gender by definition are completely two different things also you aren’t lesbian you need to stop speaking over lesbians voices”
He/Him lesbian by lesbian_mess September 12, 2022
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He/Him Lesbian
A He/him lesbian is a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns despite the two concepts conflicting with each other. Many will claim this is because he/him lesbians feel a sense of disconnect from womanhood/femininity, or more commonly, "pronouns don't equal gender." However, this statement is incorrect due to the fact that pronoun variety exists for the sole reason of indicating gender identity in the context of a conversation. If pronouns were only meant for specifying a person completely outside of gender, then this variety (he/him, she/her, they/them, etc) simply wouldn't exist, and there would only be one universal set of pronouns.
Another way people attempt to justify he/him lesbians is by using examples of he/him lesbians from the past, in which the historical context has been adapted and altered, for their convenience. Historical he/him lesbians did not use he/him pronouns because they preferred it that way, but rather they did this as a safety mechanism. This is because, in more homophobic times, lesbians would commonly have one partner present as male in order to appear as a heterosexual couple, as to not get hate crimed out in public. This wasn't a form of self-expression, this was a safety method.
In short, he/him lesbians are harmful to lesbians as they suggest that lesbians can be attracted to men if they are attracted to he/him lesbians (who literally call themselves "he", a male pronoun).
Another way people attempt to justify he/him lesbians is by using examples of he/him lesbians from the past, in which the historical context has been adapted and altered, for their convenience. Historical he/him lesbians did not use he/him pronouns because they preferred it that way, but rather they did this as a safety mechanism. This is because, in more homophobic times, lesbians would commonly have one partner present as male in order to appear as a heterosexual couple, as to not get hate crimed out in public. This wasn't a form of self-expression, this was a safety method.
In short, he/him lesbians are harmful to lesbians as they suggest that lesbians can be attracted to men if they are attracted to he/him lesbians (who literally call themselves "he", a male pronoun).
Person A: "I'm a he/him lesbian."
Person B: "So you're a woman......who goes by he/him?"
Person A: "Yes."
Person B: "But he/him suggests the user is male, that's why it's a set of pronouns. It's for male-identifying people."
Person A: "Pronouns don't equal gender."
Person B: "So then why have different pronouns at all? There are different pronouns because they were made to represent different genders. If pronouns don't include gender than why isn't there just one universal set of pronouns? It doesn't make sense."
Person B: "So you're a woman......who goes by he/him?"
Person A: "Yes."
Person B: "But he/him suggests the user is male, that's why it's a set of pronouns. It's for male-identifying people."
Person A: "Pronouns don't equal gender."
Person B: "So then why have different pronouns at all? There are different pronouns because they were made to represent different genders. If pronouns don't include gender than why isn't there just one universal set of pronouns? It doesn't make sense."
He/Him Lesbian by Fritz.Fox August 29, 2021
he/him lesbian
some guy: i only like girls
person: so you're het?
some guy: actually i am a he/him lesbian !!!! 😡😡😡
person: so you're het?
some guy: actually i am a he/him lesbian !!!! 😡😡😡
he/him lesbian by aarghh c coom arghh September 28, 2020
he/him lesbian
normally people going by he/him pronouns who still want to be quirky by saying they are a lesbian. normally very invalidating to lesbians.
"hey, im coming out as a he/him lesbian.."
"joel, you're a straight boy just say that.. you know how invalidated i feel by people who go by that."
"joel, you're a straight boy just say that.. you know how invalidated i feel by people who go by that."
he/him lesbian by c7ntwaffle November 24, 2021
he/him lesbian
A lesbian who uses he/him pronouns.
A person who identifies with being a lesbian, and simply has a preference for he/him pronouns. A he/him lesbian may or may not be butch or masc-presenting.
A person who identifies with being a lesbian, and simply has a preference for he/him pronouns. A he/him lesbian may or may not be butch or masc-presenting.
he/him lesbian by rangoe April 8, 2024
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