estranged zone

a place worse than the friend zone. It's the place guys go when they cross the line of friendship and the girl isn't interested. Instead of simply going back into the friend zone, he goes to a place where he's almost avoided at all costs no matter how good of a "friend " he was before. He becomes less than a stranger perhaps not even receiving a greeting in public. It's more awkward being around her since she will always have in the back of her mind these "feelings" the guy now has she "never" knew about that she doesn't want to contribute to. If she truly didn't know, she didn't do anything but be herself. Thus her lack of comfort or excessive concern for not being misleading is completely unfounded and often becomes more annoying than anything. If this happens to you, call the girl's bluff of "let's just be friends" by initially being available but gradually if not suddenly no longer going out your way to do anything for her and NOT initiating contact with her. Let her miss the "good friend" she had after she dates some more jerks who probably spared you their problem. It's not a fun place to be but pays off wnen this same "friend" is still single well into her 30s complaining about how a "good man" is hard to find. Meanwhile, you've moved on to your happily ever after knowing that you was that "good man" she passed on.

Note: Nothing wrong with being a single woman in her 30s. The issue is with "complaining" about the lack of good men since many "good men" fell into the "nice guy" or "jaf" category years earlier.

You still in the friend zone with that chick?

Nah, even worse. I'm in the estranged zone. She only calls me when she's arguing with her boyfriend. Other than that, she avoids me like the plague.

estranged zone by Doublestuff December 9, 2008