a place worse than the friend zone. It's the place guys go when they cross the line of friendship and the girl isn't interested. Instead of simply going back into the friend zone, he goes to a place where he's almost avoided at all costs no matter how good of a "friend " he was before. He becomes less than a stranger perhaps not even receiving a greeting in public. It's more awkward being around her since she will always have in the back of her mind these "feelings" the guy now has she "never" knew about that she doesn't want to contribute to. If she truly didn't know, she didn't do anything but be herself. Thus her lack of comfort or excessive concern for not being misleading is completely unfounded and often becomes more annoying than anything. If this happens to you, call the girl's bluff of "let's just be friends" by initially being available but gradually if not suddenly no longer going out your way to do anything for her and NOT initiating contact with her. Let her miss the "good friend" she had after she dates some more jerks who probably spared you their problem. It's not a fun place to be but pays off wnen this same "friend" is still single well into her 30s complaining about how a "good man" is hard to find. Meanwhile, you've moved on to your happily ever after knowing that you was that "good man" she passed on.
Note: Nothing wrong with being a single woman in her 30s. The issue is with "complaining" about the lack of good men since many "good men" fell into the "nice guy" or "jaf" category years earlier.
Note: Nothing wrong with being a single woman in her 30s. The issue is with "complaining" about the lack of good men since many "good men" fell into the "nice guy" or "jaf" category years earlier.
You still in the friend zone with that chick?
Nah, even worse. I'm in the estranged zone. She only calls me when she's arguing with her boyfriend. Other than that, she avoids me like the plague.
Nah, even worse. I'm in the estranged zone. She only calls me when she's arguing with her boyfriend. Other than that, she avoids me like the plague.
by Doublestuff December 05, 2008
Activities, both general and specific, that guys normally wouldn't engage in with a group of their guy friends and often times even female friends with whom they have no romantic interest in. Outside the context of dating a girl, participation in dating activities often lowers a man's masculine status among his peers. Thus they are to be avoided when not dating. Dating activities are acceptable when a guy is dating because he really has no interest in the actual activity, but his interest is in the girl and he's just participating to spend some time with her.
Sample of Dating Activities:
Chick flicks (aka dating movies when datiing)
The Notebook (movie)
Dancing (when there's no girl involved unless you are a professional dancer or performer), especially so called formals.
Shopping as a hobby or recreational activity
Dining at EXPENSIVE restaurants especially ones where the food isn't that great, but you're really just paying for the atmosphere and environment.
"Walks in the park"
Yo, Man, what are you doing this weekend?
I'm going to go dancing.
With who?
Courtney.
She's a fox! Alright then, have fun with your weekend dating activity.
Chick flicks (aka dating movies when datiing)
The Notebook (movie)
Dancing (when there's no girl involved unless you are a professional dancer or performer), especially so called formals.
Shopping as a hobby or recreational activity
Dining at EXPENSIVE restaurants especially ones where the food isn't that great, but you're really just paying for the atmosphere and environment.
"Walks in the park"
Yo, Man, what are you doing this weekend?
I'm going to go dancing.
With who?
Courtney.
She's a fox! Alright then, have fun with your weekend dating activity.
by Doublestuff December 29, 2008
A person who chases after something that can't be caught or pursues something that is futile.
Origin. Based on a person who tries to chase the wind in hopes of someday catching it, actually grasping it with his hands.
Origin. Based on a person who tries to chase the wind in hopes of someday catching it, actually grasping it with his hands.
Yo, you still trying to get with that girl?
Nah, man. I'm not a windchaser. I gave up on her a long time ago after she said no and didn't leave it open.
Nah, man. I'm not a windchaser. I gave up on her a long time ago after she said no and didn't leave it open.
by Doublestuff December 04, 2008
Cute but crazy; used to refer to the opposite sex's obvious good looks but overall personality is crazy enough to keep you at a safe distance.
by Doublestuff December 05, 2008
Cute with children; used to refer to someone who's attractive but has children thus scaring away anyone not ready for parenthood.
by Doublestuff December 05, 2008
obsessive, unhealthy, unrequited, creepy love for someone marked by unwelcomed attention or attempts to contact or be around the person. In extreme cases, a restraining order is required.
If you don't let her go, your feelings for her are going to turn into stalker love. She hasn't returned any of your calls or txts. Just let it burn.
by Doublestuff December 05, 2008
"Just a friend"; a term often used to describe someone of romantic interest who has yet to be referred to as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" in public or even among close friends. Often, both parties have a shared romantic interest in each other and haven't told anyone yet. At other times, one of them may be stuck in the friend zone. The "just a..." part is a lame attempt to conceal this fact everyone else already knows. Otherwise, the term friend is used instead.
Jay-Z was jaf to Beyonce for years and now they are married!
I respect people's privacy but who were they fooling?
I respect people's privacy but who were they fooling?
by Doublestuff December 05, 2008