comfort-zoning
When your partner is happy with you in the current comfort zone you have created. They don’t want the relationship to end but they don’t want it to move forward (I.e. moving in together, marriage, buying a house, getting a pet together , having kids) Similar to a situation-ship except the feelings are genuine.
Your partner will give you mixed signals to make the relationship stay the same.
Reason for this include but are not limited to: unresolved feelings for someone else, commitment phobia, desire to avoid adult life, their unsure of their sexuality, or they are just lazy.
Your partner will give you mixed signals to make the relationship stay the same.
Reason for this include but are not limited to: unresolved feelings for someone else, commitment phobia, desire to avoid adult life, their unsure of their sexuality, or they are just lazy.
*adds ex on Facebook* “we dated for like a week. Yeah she broke my heart but it was like ten years ago. Can you call her and ex?”
“Do I love her? Probably not.”
“We can start looking at houses next year for sure.”
Two weeks later: “We’ll in three years we might be able to get a house.”
“We definitely might get married someday.”
“I’m going to be a parent so maybe let’s just get some pets. But you know after we move because the land lord does allow pets right now.”
“So I’m going to ignore you at game night but don’t be mad, my friends are just self-conscious they don’t have girlfriends” *proceeds to ignore you and not so casually strokes his best friends bicep through out the night*
“Do you think (insert best friend name) is gay?”
“Aw you took the trash out, thanks. I was gonna do it but I forgot three days in a row.”
“Yeah I love you. You make me feel comfortable.”
Boom. Comfort-zoning.
“Do I love her? Probably not.”
“We can start looking at houses next year for sure.”
Two weeks later: “We’ll in three years we might be able to get a house.”
“We definitely might get married someday.”
“I’m going to be a parent so maybe let’s just get some pets. But you know after we move because the land lord does allow pets right now.”
“So I’m going to ignore you at game night but don’t be mad, my friends are just self-conscious they don’t have girlfriends” *proceeds to ignore you and not so casually strokes his best friends bicep through out the night*
“Do you think (insert best friend name) is gay?”
“Aw you took the trash out, thanks. I was gonna do it but I forgot three days in a row.”
“Yeah I love you. You make me feel comfortable.”
Boom. Comfort-zoning.
comfort-zoning by char.black March 1, 2020
