To do or trysomething in a sneakly way, to avoid attracting attention or suspicion, or being caught in the act of doing or trying it; without others knowing or being aware of it.
He surreptitiously left the room.
She surreptitiously ran away from her boyrfriend.
They surreptitiously smuggled the goods through.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.