Instead of faking a plausible excuse, a person tells an audacious lie in order to make it known that they just don't want to hang out with you, presumably in order to offend you enough that the situation won't occur again.
Jake: Hey man, you wanna go catch a flick at the old drive-thru?
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.