We know chemistry when we feel it with another person, but we don't always know why we're drawn to one person over another. Is it just a cascade of neurotransmitters and hormones conspiring to rush you toward reproduction? Is it attraction borne of a set of shared values? Or is it bonding over specific experiences that create intimacy?
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
Attraction may be influenced less than lust by physiological factors -the appeal of someone's features, or the way they make you laugh—but your body is still calling the shots at this stage, pumping you full of the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, effecting your brain in a way that's like the way illicit substances do.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
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Get the Chemistry mug.A shitty band from New Jersey that create really awful, generic songs and that sound like every other band at the moment. Fronted by Gerard Way, who (as my friend so brilliantly put) sounds like he should shot.
Seriously, there's nothing special about them- the only reason they suddenly became 'cool' is because Gerard started to wear red eyeshadow around his eyes. Now every girl in the world is buying shitloads of red eyeshadow and smothering it down their faces while screaming "I'M NOT OKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!!" Before Gerard's whole I'm A Guy And I'm Wearing Eyeshadow Which Is Make Up barely anyone had heard of My Chemical Romance. Guys wearing eyeliner is just A Thing at the moment and as soon as it goes out of fashion, Gerard will stop wearing it. There's very few male bandpeople that actually wear make up because they like it and think it makes them look more attractive. Infact I can only think of one- Brian Molko.
So there you have it, just another person's opinion on My Chemcial fucking Romance.
Seriously, there's nothing special about them- the only reason they suddenly became 'cool' is because Gerard started to wear red eyeshadow around his eyes. Now every girl in the world is buying shitloads of red eyeshadow and smothering it down their faces while screaming "I'M NOT OKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!!" Before Gerard's whole I'm A Guy And I'm Wearing Eyeshadow Which Is Make Up barely anyone had heard of My Chemical Romance. Guys wearing eyeliner is just A Thing at the moment and as soon as it goes out of fashion, Gerard will stop wearing it. There's very few male bandpeople that actually wear make up because they like it and think it makes them look more attractive. Infact I can only think of one- Brian Molko.
So there you have it, just another person's opinion on My Chemcial fucking Romance.
A time that I don't know....
Gerard: "oh no one like's us, probably because we're crap, but maybe it's because I'm not wearing any make up like every other guy is at the moment!"
Other Band Member: "Gerard, I think it IS because we're cra-"
Gerard: "Right! I'm going to buy me some eyeshadow!"
A while later....
*on MTV* "I'm not oKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!"
A Person Who Is Easily Brainwashed By Such Crap: "LIKE OMGZZZZZZ!!!! I LUV MCR!!!!!!! GERARD IS SO HOTT!!"
Gerard: "oh no one like's us, probably because we're crap, but maybe it's because I'm not wearing any make up like every other guy is at the moment!"
Other Band Member: "Gerard, I think it IS because we're cra-"
Gerard: "Right! I'm going to buy me some eyeshadow!"
A while later....
*on MTV* "I'm not oKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!"
A Person Who Is Easily Brainwashed By Such Crap: "LIKE OMGZZZZZZ!!!! I LUV MCR!!!!!!! GERARD IS SO HOTT!!"
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A situation in which two parties cannot find an appropriate vibe or chemistry through text messaging.
Friend: dude, did you go out with that girl you met at the bar last week?
Guy: nah man, I got her number but we had no textual chemistry. Can't waste my 1000 free texts on that bitch.
Guy: nah man, I got her number but we had no textual chemistry. Can't waste my 1000 free texts on that bitch.
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Friend1: Hey, if you mixed 50 Cent, Ja Rule and a sewer rat together you know what you'd get? Chamillionaire! lol.
Friend2: Nah, Chamillionaire's uglier than that.
Friend2: Nah, Chamillionaire's uglier than that.
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They have unfortunatly become strangely popular, but dont let yourself believe this is due to a modicum of talent, oh no, its solely down to the way the band pander to the image of fashion that is currently held by the ever growing contingent of emo kids.
They have unfortunatly become strangely popular, but dont let yourself believe this is due to a modicum of talent, oh no, its solely down to the way the band pander to the image of fashion that is currently held by the ever growing contingent of emo kids.
Metaller - "wow MCR suck cock dont they?"
Emo-kid - "take that back, Gerard Way is the greatest person ever!!"(bursts out crying)
"OMG, Gerard Way looks like someone tried to beat him to death with a shovel"
"Yeah, too bad they failed"
Emo-kid - "take that back, Gerard Way is the greatest person ever!!"(bursts out crying)
"OMG, Gerard Way looks like someone tried to beat him to death with a shovel"
"Yeah, too bad they failed"
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I will never again sleep face down since the night I awoke to my wife giving me a Sleeping Chimichanga.
by Pedro_DePacas February 26, 2009
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