tolyssa

the ship name for Tom Felton and Alyssa Ortiz

Tolyssa would be so cute if Tom wasnt to old for her

by AlyssaMalfoy September 19, 2020

tolyasluvr

tolyasluvr is the coolest mutual and they’re guaranteed to make you laugh. she’s also elisabeth scriveners wife (real).

“dude, tolyasluvr is literally so funny”

by natasharomanoffswife September 4, 2021

tolyamorous

Coined by Dan Savage on the Episode.900 of the Savage Lovecast: Someone who puts up with their spouse having affairs — someone who tolerates a little cheating — but doesn't want to open the marriage officially isn't polyamorous. They're tolyamorous.

"Cameron cheats on Phoebe once in a while and he thinks he's fooling her but — lucky for Cam — Phoebe is tolyamorous."

by Molly Muchargasse January 23, 2024

tolyamory

Relationship style that tolerates some nonmonogamy but does not aim for polyamory or multiple partners simultaneously

Polyamory is too complicated for us so we decided on tolyamory instead.

by HiKoality February 6, 2024

tolyamory

Coined by Dan Savage. “Tolerating polyamory”. To be in a polyamorous relationship but only tolerating it. Not to be confused with “poly under duress” or PUD.

Hilary resigned herself to tolyamory with Bill.

by Mac8585 March 31, 2024

tolyamorous

Practicing tolyamory; To accept or tolerate being in a polyamorous relationship

Hilary found herself in a tolyamorous relationship with Bill.

by Mac8585 March 31, 2024

Tolyamory

A relationship style or mindset where a person is tolerant of polyamory but does not necessarily participate in it themselves. Someone who practices tolyamory may support or accept a partner having multiple romantic or intimate relationships while personally remaining monogamous or emotionally exclusive.

“I’m not poly, but I’m okay with my partner dating other people — I guess you could call that tolyamory.”

“They have a tolyamorous relationship; she’s supportive of his other partners but prefers to stay monogamous herself.”

tolyamorous (adjective): “He identifies as tolyamorous.”

tolyamorist (noun): “She’s a tolyamorist who prefers one-on-one emotional bonds.”

by Infinit3mber October 21, 2025