A set of traits often displayed by those who consider themselves cool kids. These are a group of
people who tend to depend on external validation and place
significant emphasis on how they are seen, due to an insufficient amount of unconditional love they are presently receiving or have received in the past (e.g. as a child). The latter creates difficulty for them to self-validate and triggers the development of narcissism as one of the possible coping mechanisms. However, such narcissism is usually non-invasive and limited in extent, and does not necessarily imply grandiosity, excessive need for admiration, or inability to empathize in the personality disorder sense.
People who consider themselves cool kids experience a constant need to reinforce their
ego, and achieve this by engaging in activities they consider cool, associating themselves with others who consider themselves cool, and differentiating and distancing themselves from the rest of the
people around them. As a way to maintain this order, they
may also be either single or in relationships that tend to
stress sex at the cost of intimacy.
A: Jack's having another wine tasting party and didn't invite either of us.
B:
Oh don't worry about it, mate. He's got the
cool kid syndrome.
