A Xanderman is when you take take a Tootsie pop and continue altering it between your mouth and someone else's ass. The real trick is not knowing if you've reached the center or just have shit on the tootsie pop.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.