A feminist notion that emotions are somehow hard work, and that they should be financially compensated for them. Men don't seem to have a problem being nice to people, and are rightfully perplexed when women use this term.
Given the amount of emotions a normal woman has every few minutes, about virtually everything, emotional labor seems to be an oxymoron.
"Omg, Brad's such a bad manager, he doesn't recognize all the emotional labor I put in, trying to be nice to customers all the time!"
Emotional labour was originally a word for people who have to put a lot of uncompensated emotional effort into their job. Recently, however, it's more along the lines of "idk, it kinda sucks when I have to listen to my boyfriend" or "now that I've made my statement, I don't want to defend myself or back it up because it's emotionally laborious"
If you're willing to PayPal me $5 for the emotional labour, I'll explain my vague/ridiculous statement"
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. Penguin Books,1992. p. 38)