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Bend Over Backwards 

To bend over backwards would assume some or all of another's problems as one's own. To bend over backwards for someone would portray the idea of going the extra mile and carrying another's burden in addition to one's own.

It would essentially mean twisting, bending, and utilizing a portion of one's interrupted routine (or literally, their body) into a position requiring effort, inconvenience or discomfort.

To exceed expectations by an identifiable action in addition to or at the exclusion of someone's personal responsibilities. The phrase might also be used as insinuation for sexual acts, or when used under the pretense of sarcasm... or both.

Possibly a state of mind. The phrase might be used when referring to someone who finds a portion of their identity in acts of service, hospitality, or ministry.

When used in a congratulatory manner, it could refer to someone who bends over backwards by contributing far more than had been expected or anticipated. It might be used in recognition of expended effort or resources to solve a problem.

Could be used as a prediction of anticipated effort. Someone enrolling in college or beginning a new career might be warned with the phrase that they will need more than "talent" to reach their intended destination.

First submission. Wide open to correction or improvement. Thank you.
Bend Over Backwards in use: "My father bent over backwards to help us move." "My wife bends over backwards to make things happen." "I bend over backwards for people and they don't appreciate me." Those folks are always bending over backwards for their neighbors." "The crew bent over backwards to make that show happen." "If you want to make it here you're going to have to bend over backwards just to keep up."
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bend over backwards 

make a very big effort
my sister bends over backwards to help the doctor check her temperature

bend over backwards 

to exert oneself mightily
If you have to bend over backwards for a place like that it's not worth finding it.

bend over backwards to bend you over forwards

to go well out of the way (beyond the call of duty) to make somebody suffer a severe shafting (to be right royally buggered)
Dr Drott bent over backwards to bend us over forwards in that exam
The word 'flag' as pronounced by people with thick Belfast accents. The term is a perfect encapsulation of the disproportionate and overblown reaction to the removal of the Union Jack (as in 'de fleg') from above City Hall in Belfast. Where previously it had flown for 365 days per year, it is now flown on 17 designated days of the year - in line with many other British cities.

The event caused a portion of the Protestant community ('fleggers') to make international pricks of themselves as they proceeded to wreck the fucking place, claiming it was another erosion of a 'British' identity they perceive to have been under attack since the horrifying spectre of equality reared its head in Northern Ireland.

The word 'fleg' - and indeed 'fleggers' - fittingly describes a section of humanity unconcerned with knowledge, reality or the vagaries of the English language. Like America's tea-baggers they are ruled by instinct, fear and paranoia with a side dish of rampant bigotry and startling ignorance of the world around them.
"Wat de fuck like! The taigs got de fleg took down! Let's wreck de fuckin place! No surrender!"

"De fleg has been took down! Before ye know it there'll be a united Ireland! Attack Short Strand! God Save The Queen!"
Fleg by OnionFleg August 9, 2013
Word of the Day on July 18, 2026
To take something small, that doesn't quite qualify as a theft. Probably from the Danish "skæv" or the Dutch "scheef", both of which are pronounced similarly, meaning "askew, or not quite right'. To change an item's ownership without permission, but only something small and of little worth.
"I skeefed an apple off the neighbor's tree." "I skeefed some chips outta your bag when you looked away." "Don't skeef my chair when I go to the bathroom."
Skeef by kachinaflonk July 16, 2026
Word of the Day on July 17, 2026

Hair spider

A tight, tangled knot of loose hair and lint that forms inside clothing during the clothes dryer cycle. It typically hides inside garments, causing an annoying lump or a phantom tickling sensation against the skin until it is found or falls out onto the floor during folding.
I was folding my clothes and a huge hair spider fell out onto my hand
Hair spider by Kmorsels July 15, 2026
Word of the Day on July 16, 2026