A
hate soulmate.
A (healthy) kismesissitude is a fully consensual, well grounded, romantic relationship; but it equally compromises the emotions of love and
hate.
The feelings of
hate spring from a need and compelling desire to rival the other person, to try and have a sort of healthy competition through them without life that
will build both of you up and strengthen you both.
Not everyone you
hate or dislike is your kismesis. Feelings like this should be carefully examined and meditated upon. A kismesis is not just merely someone you
hate, it is your
hate soulmate. A kismesissitude isn't purely
hate, as that would be REALLY
fucking unhealthy for any relationship. There is an aspect, a very strong one, of love and gentleness involved too. When not bickering or trying to toughen each other up, kismesis pairs genuinely care for each other. Healthy couples
will try to strengthen and give the other attention and acceptance, building each other up.
Often, kismesissitudes have a sexual element to them. On the other hand, the sexual aspect doesn't have to exist at all - just as with any relationship. There are also your more romantic moments with your kismesis. But, these tender moments
aren't as common as they are in romantic relationships, or it wouldn't be a kismesissitude. The sparing amount of these moments is what makes the couple greatly appreciate and value them more.