The Erotomaniac Stalker
This kind of stalker believes that he is
in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and
family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The erotomaniac feels
free to make for you legal, financial, and emotional decisions and to commit you without your express
consent or even knowledge.
Moreover, no amount of denials, chastising, threats, and even outright hostile actions will convince the erotomaniac that you are not
in love with him. He knows better and will make you see the light as well. You are simply unaware of what is good for you, divorced as you are from your emotions. The erotomaniac determinedly sees it as his or her task to bring life and
happiness into your dreary existence.
The best coping strategy is to ignore the erotomaniac. Do not communicate with him or even acknowledge his existence. The erotomaniac clutches at straws and often suffers from ideas of reference. He tends to blow out of proportion every comment or gesture of his "loved
one".
Secretary: Hey, your ex-
boyfriend left you another message.
Boss: Next time he calls just hang up, or better yet; pay attention to the caller ID and
don't pick up at all!
Secretary: Didn't you break up with him like 3 months ago?
Boss: I did. But according to his psychologist, my ex suffers from Erotomania. That's why I've broken up with him over 20 times, but he just can't take "no" for an answer, despite the fact that I got a restraining order after he got his hands on a fake marriage certificate with our names on it and showed up with it at my
parents' house during the
Christmas holidays. The psychologist tells me that ignoring an erotomaniac is the best thing to do to make them back off. So now, I'm ignoring him completely. I'm pretending that he doesn't exists and I would appreciate if you did the same.
Secretary: Of course.
