“I won’t sugar the butter, but I will butter the toast”
A phrase meaning you don’t have any good news, but you’ll give the news regardless. Another way of saying, “I won’t sugar coat this”
“I have some bad news for you”
“Well, don’t sugar the butter, butter the toast”
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.