When you've (usually a black guy) spent so much time with white people that you begin to dislike your own race, but due to white people's "whiteness" you still do not feel completely comfortable around them
Black Guy 1: You've spent the last 4 day with Richard, Madison, and Olivia! How do you feel?
Black Guy 2: They are fun, but I'm really starting to feel distant from other black people.
*Richard send a video of a failed dab*
Black Guy 2: "OHHHHHH WHYYYYYYYY?"
Black Guy 1: Yeah bro you're Faking an Uncle Tom
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”