"Al-turd-ative"....A variation of the similar word "Alternative".... Meaning the decision of a girl wishing to remain a virgin to take it up the butt instead of having vaginal sex.... the thought process being that anal sex isn't a violation of chastity vows since it doesn't break the hymen.
The girl said she wouldn't have vaginal intercourse cuz she wanted to technically stay a virgin but, she offered me anal sex as an "al-turd-ative" (alturdative).
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.