A He/him lesbian is a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns despite the two concepts conflicting with each other. Many will claim this is because he/him lesbians feel a sense of disconnect from womanhood/femininity, or more commonly, "pronouns don't equal gender." However, this statement is incorrect due to the fact that pronoun variety exists for the sole reason of indicating gender identity in the context of a conversation. If pronouns were only meant for specifying a person completely outside of gender, then this variety (he/him, she/her, they/them, etc) simply wouldn't exist, and there would only be one universal set of pronouns.
Another way people attempt to justify he/him lesbians is by using examples of he/him lesbians from the past, in which the historical context has been adapted and altered, for their convenience. Historical he/him lesbians did not use he/him pronouns because they preferred it that way, but rather they did this as a safety mechanism. This is because, in more homophobic times, lesbians would commonly have one partner present as male in order to appear as a heterosexual couple, as to not get hate crimed out in public. This wasn't a form of self-expression, this was a safety method.
In short, he/him lesbians are harmful to lesbians as they suggest that lesbians can be attracted to men if they are attracted to he/him lesbians (who literally call themselves "he", a male pronoun).
Another way people attempt to justify he/him lesbians is by using examples of he/him lesbians from the past, in which the historical context has been adapted and altered, for their convenience. Historical he/him lesbians did not use he/him pronouns because they preferred it that way, but rather they did this as a safety mechanism. This is because, in more homophobic times, lesbians would commonly have one partner present as male in order to appear as a heterosexual couple, as to not get hate crimed out in public. This wasn't a form of self-expression, this was a safety method.
In short, he/him lesbians are harmful to lesbians as they suggest that lesbians can be attracted to men if they are attracted to he/him lesbians (who literally call themselves "he", a male pronoun).
Person A: "I'm a he/him lesbian."
Person B: "So you're a woman......who goes by he/him?"
Person A: "Yes."
Person B: "But he/him suggests the user is male, that's why it's a set of pronouns. It's for male-identifying people."
Person A: "Pronouns don't equal gender."
Person B: "So then why have different pronouns at all? There are different pronouns because they were made to represent different genders. If pronouns don't include gender than why isn't there just one universal set of pronouns? It doesn't make sense."
Person B: "So you're a woman......who goes by he/him?"
Person A: "Yes."
Person B: "But he/him suggests the user is male, that's why it's a set of pronouns. It's for male-identifying people."
Person A: "Pronouns don't equal gender."
Person B: "So then why have different pronouns at all? There are different pronouns because they were made to represent different genders. If pronouns don't include gender than why isn't there just one universal set of pronouns? It doesn't make sense."
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Many people use examples of historical he/him lesbians to validate their identity, however they adapt and change the historic context to their convenience. For example; many claim he/him lesbians used male pronouns because they felt detached from their womanhood. However, the historical use of male pronouns amongst lesbians was STRICTLY for safety, so they could pass as a male to avoid lesbophobia during a highly
homophobic time.
Many people use examples of historical he/him lesbians to validate their identity, however they adapt and change the historic context to their convenience. For example; many claim he/him lesbians used male pronouns because they felt detached from their womanhood. However, the historical use of male pronouns amongst lesbians was STRICTLY for safety, so they could pass as a male to avoid lesbophobia during a highly
homophobic time.
person a) “he/him lesbians are harmful as they invalidate both lesbians and trans men.”
person b) “period!”
person b) “period!”
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"hey, im coming out as a he/him lesbian.."
"joel, you're a straight boy just say that.. you know how invalidated i feel by people who go by that."
"joel, you're a straight boy just say that.. you know how invalidated i feel by people who go by that."
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A person who identifies with being a lesbian, and simply has a preference for he/him pronouns. A he/him lesbian may or may not be butch or masc-presenting.
A person who identifies with being a lesbian, and simply has a preference for he/him pronouns. A he/him lesbian may or may not be butch or masc-presenting.
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