When a man attempts to get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) by first being their friend, then hoping to transition that to being their boyfriend. After they've been their friend for a while with no sexual tension being built up, he asks her out, with her saying something along the lines of "I don't think of you that way and I don't want to jeopardize what we have."
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
Joshua: "Is that *band shirt/book/food/anything like that*? *Band/book/food/whatever's being referenced* is amazing! I love *band/book/food/etc.*!"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
by 681681 August 19, 2017
Get the Friend Zonemug. by I, Wreckerrr September 15, 2021
Get the FIEND zonedmug. similar to 'the friend zone'
but you actually just don't really wanna hang out with this person in real life, so you just talk to them online
but you actually just don't really wanna hang out with this person in real life, so you just talk to them online
*over fb messenger*
'wanna hang out? we've only ever really talked online...'
'uhh, nah, i'm not feeling like it right now'
*thinks to self* 'am i in the internet zone?'
'wanna hang out? we've only ever really talked online...'
'uhh, nah, i'm not feeling like it right now'
*thinks to self* 'am i in the internet zone?'
by xtinaok March 10, 2015
Get the the internet zonemug. by anonymous November 23, 2021
Get the Good Time Zonemug. Innocent Spontaneous hot sexual thoughts that make you smile or daydream.
For Example:
While listening to someone tell you a story, you hear what they are saying, but your mind automatically relates what they are saying to something sexual and fun.
For Example:
While listening to someone tell you a story, you hear what they are saying, but your mind automatically relates what they are saying to something sexual and fun.
While this hot guy was talking about throwing his back out, my mind immediately went into the “dirty zone” and I couldn’t help but smile.
by KC Carolina Girl May 14, 2018
Get the dirty zonemug. Loading Zone is the time period in which streaming entertainment is paused while buffering or loading video.
by Urbanverban July 11, 2021
Get the Loading Zonemug. Gajja zoned be the process in which a person's messages are delete in order to provide peace and prosperity to the country without inflicting pain on its citizens
by gaaju goat November 13, 2022
Get the gajja zonedmug.