When a person gaslights you into feeling or looking vulnerable or needy for their fake help and hence, inferior. It's a way of domineering over you by establishing a power dynamic where they get to control your life, order you around and you're supposed to feel grateful to be treated like a dog. May be part of a smear campaign, triangulation and poisoning the well of your general reputation. Common to narcissists but everyone has done this at some point, we usually grow out of it after school. They will interrogate you for slander and ruin under the guise of politeness. Social sabotage and attempted social murder.
e.g. "I'm just worried about you" or "are you okay? you seem XYZ" Classic form of concern trolling, weaponised by controlling men and women who otherwise have no recourse to control you in that situation. May speak to you like an abusive parent to a naughty child. Boundary violation is the purpose.
"People have been talking about you so I just came to check how you are." Triangulation method, they're the problem. They are smearing you.
"You look terrible/tired" or "You seem so sad, secretly, can I help?" Interference and belittlement gaslights.
"Are you SURE you're okay?" wearing you down with resistance to their interrogations. Happens in the workplace too.
"People have been talking about you so I just came to check how you are." Triangulation method, they're the problem. They are smearing you.
"You look terrible/tired" or "You seem so sad, secretly, can I help?" Interference and belittlement gaslights.
"Are you SURE you're okay?" wearing you down with resistance to their interrogations. Happens in the workplace too.
by paint88 June 30, 2024
Get the concern trollingmug. It’s where you make sure someone won’t do something before they make a decision.
Like Dude 2 is concerned about dude 1’s health so he is making sure dude 1 doesn’t do anything to put his health in danger
Like Dude 2 is concerned about dude 1’s health so he is making sure dude 1 doesn’t do anything to put his health in danger
Dude1: I’ve bee feeling really down lately...
Dude2: Well, at least don’t go back to cutting
Dude1: I won’t, thank you for your Pre-Concern
Dude2: Well, at least don’t go back to cutting
Dude1: I won’t, thank you for your Pre-Concern
by Eggs and sausage August 17, 2020
Get the Pre-Concernmug. Bob: Take my liver.
Gary Miller: Concern juice.
Bob: Lol. Your now concerned, loser.
Gary Miller: Can I still have your liver though?
Bob: Only if you finish your concern juice.
Gary Miller finishes his concern juice and takes Bob's liver.
Then you make-out.
The End.
Bob: I love you, Gary Miller.
Gary Miller: I love you too, Bob.
Gary Miller: Concern juice.
Bob: Lol. Your now concerned, loser.
Gary Miller: Can I still have your liver though?
Bob: Only if you finish your concern juice.
Gary Miller finishes his concern juice and takes Bob's liver.
Then you make-out.
The End.
Bob: I love you, Gary Miller.
Gary Miller: I love you too, Bob.
by Starry Soleil November 22, 2021
Get the Concern Juicemug. I have concernment for you
by threeisamagicnumber March 15, 2022
Get the concernmentmug. A variant of concern is when you’ve been drinking pints for 5 or 6 rounds and one mate decides to change the round to shots
by Toni macaroni May 17, 2021
Get the Variant of Concernmug. A person who pretends to care about issues or the "current thing" that doesn't even concern them. They go on the internet to post claiming to "support" the "current thing" and then argue with strangers about it.
by obsoletebill February 10, 2023
Get the Fake Concernmug. The wildfires (in California during November of 2018, or any other like wildfires in history) that have destroyed forested areas, vehicles, homes and everything else in its path, killing many and causing the disappearance of many more, as well as poisoned the air, at a devastating and seemingly unstoppable rate.
This Burn Concern, or any other, needs to be contained immediately. This is too sad and scary with which to deal right now.
by Ereck Flowers November 12, 2018
Get the Burn Concernmug.