Pudding has to “set up” before it’s pudding; before that it’s just a mixture of the ingredients which will eventually becomes pudding.
Similarly,
one must allow a situation to develop before the
reality and results of it can truly be seen. It’s not about “going through”
something, because you can observe pudding as an outsider.
During my
divorce several people sided with my
ex, believing the lies he told them about me and us. But I chose to let
time and silence be my defense, and eventually the proof is in the pudding.