A term coined by Elder Herb of the Solution Based Community podcast in 2020. It is used to describe the idea of a person of color needing and/or feeling the need to be validated by white people in order to obtain a high level of success or financial independence.
Tyler Perry used his own money to build his own studio so he no longer needs that walidation for his projects. He can put them out all on his own.
churchhurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the churchhurt that was inflicted on me as a child.
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.