A performative male is one who reads books by women authors, drinks matcha, and carries a tote bag (bonus points if it's artsy) with a labubu pinned to it. Also, wear baggy pants. He likely listens to indie artists like Clairo. The books he reads may include, but are not limited to: The Bell Jar, Intermezzo, and We Should All Be Feminists. His home or room likely has vinyl collections hung on the walls.
Whether or not he understands the feminist themes is up for debate. Apparently, he just wants to be on the feminists' side. And don't ask about his second account on social media. What he posts there is the complete opposite on his main. 🤫
Whether or not he understands the feminist themes is up for debate. Apparently, he just wants to be on the feminists' side. And don't ask about his second account on social media. What he posts there is the complete opposite on his main. 🤫
Nico is a performative male. He carries a tote bag (with a lababu pinned) when going out, reads feminist literature in cafes and posts wholesome content on social media that make you feel warm, safe, and think, "Nico is the guy I wanna be besties with". However his priv account is a 180.
by mangolovercats22 August 16, 2025
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Guy 1: "OMG, you wanna go to the salon and listen to Clairo later? We could go get matcha after that."
Guy 2: "mf didn't you cheat on your last girlfriend a week ago?? You're such a Performative Male."
Guy 2: "mf didn't you cheat on your last girlfriend a week ago?? You're such a Performative Male."
by Mr. Defender July 14, 2025
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