Sometimes, people agree to having a cup of tea. But then, when the tea is ready, they might realise, that they don't want it anymore. Sure, that sucks, but you wouldn't force them to have a cup of tea.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.