We should reward people’s effort to go above and beyond their normal duty in hiring process, just like we reward outstanding efforts in other areas of work. We can send a memo to say that we will consider efforts in hiring process that do not qualify for reference fee bonus award as part of the overall evaluation during year end compensation process.
We can mention a “hypothetical” example, w/o calling names, in the same memo to illustrate and address dinner-table discussions. We can also note that at the same time we want to be strict for the purposes of the official reference bonus awards to avoid conflicts, to avoid perception we are bending rules for some but not for others.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.