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IRL YAN
Despite how it looks, irl yan is not a term used to say you are the real depiction of a yandere. IRL YAN is a coined term by the IRL YAN coping community. Reclaiming the term IRL YAN as a way of saying “ I use the term yandere to cope “.
This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey.
Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community.
There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.
This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey.
Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community.
There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.
Real IRL YAN : “ yeah I’m an irl yan , I use the term to cope “
Fake IRL YAN : “ UwU I’m a yandere for real stabby stabby “
Toxic IRL YAN usage : “ Yeah , I’m an IRL yan , I will literally try to attack him if he talks to another female “
Healthy IRL yan usage : “ I’m an IRL YAN , but I don’t act out on the belief of actually being the fictional depiction of yandere by using violence. “
Fake IRL YAN : “ UwU I’m a yandere for real stabby stabby “
Toxic IRL YAN usage : “ Yeah , I’m an IRL yan , I will literally try to attack him if he talks to another female “
Healthy IRL yan usage : “ I’m an IRL YAN , but I don’t act out on the belief of actually being the fictional depiction of yandere by using violence. “
IRL YAN by Be educated September 15, 2023
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