n. A person who states a problem that they have with the express intention of letting everyone know how awesome they think they are, revealing their douche baggery to all.
v. Back Door Bragging: The act of expressing a false statement in order to set up the conversation to prove how (seemingly) fantastic the subject finds themselves.
effect: typically leads to eye rolls and general annoyance with subject.
Lisa: Oh I hate clothes shopping anymore. Since I've been working out I can never find anything that fits because my waist is too tiny and my tits are too big. Life is so unfair!
Sarah: You're such a back door braggart, Lisa. Go fuck yourself.
Self-important or artistically-inclined person whose only conversation topics center around himself, his art, and his isolation from pop-culture and society. Extremely vocal; unable or unwilling to accept that not everything “mainstream” is bad. Typically wears Bohemian garb and listens to public radio; is unreasonably proud of his “reject” status in society. Frequently found in and around Liberal Arts colleges.
I am sick and tired of listening to Meredith talk about how no one understands her or her art. She is such a braggartist.
You know, there’s “good” eclectic, and then there’s “bad” eclectic. I’m all for soy nuts and public radio, but some of these braggartists are just crazy.
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.
FRIEND A: "Did you just take a stealthie of me?"
FRIEND B (turning phone around): "no I was just using snapchat's new filter, see?"
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”