friends without benefits
Literally, as a reversal of the common expression "friends with benefits" this could mean any platonic friendship--but there are already plenty of words for that most-common of relationships. Friends without benefits describes a particular type of a situation where you've outgrown or are tired of a friend but through some force of habit (on either person's part really) they're still in your life. But there's no benefit to the relationship for you. They keep calling you up and acting like everything's everything when you're around but you're so relieved when they hang up or leave. And nothing really bad has happened that you could point to and "break up" with them. So you plod onward making excuses and dreading the next time they call. Happens most often with borderline sociopaths who are unable to pick up on the stream of cues you give them that they're unwelcome. Also requires you to be too empathic to simply tell them to fuck off. Mutual history also plays a part in this. May be more common in middle age.
friends without benefits by mr. humann June 19, 2010
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