Skip to main content
Softboi (noun)

A softboi is emo bitchass or a goth nigga that wears all black and always be smoking packs of cigarettes.
Aye Pierre you wanna come out here and look at this patheticass softboi looking fucker.
Softboi by virgalwarrior666 November 4, 2019
An abusive male behind closed doors (typically a former incel) who overcompensates by acting winsome or pseudo intellectual in public.
Karen: Aw, isn't Steve adorkable?
Me: That softboi has wokefished you too? He sent dick pics to my grandmother last week!
Softboi by Notyourdoormat February 1, 2022

softboi engineer 

the opposite of a brogrammer.

An atypical software engineer, who doesn't identify with the leetcode grind, goes on tinder dates and does things outside of being a techies.
boy: ya I do yoga and read tarot cards. I don't wanna talk about my tech job.

girl: you're a softboi engineer
An 'effeminate' cis man who weaponizes his (pose of) emotional intelligence and pseudo-intellectualism in order to lure women into bed (or, failing that, into sending nude photographs). He presents his extreme horny-ness as a romantic sensibility. If his attempt at seduction proves a failure, the softboi may become defensive and even abusive, displaying an incel-like entitlement to sex.

Hobbies include: writing terrible poetry, pretending to read Nietzche, listening to The Smiths, wearing chipped black nail varnish as though its a radical statement, smoking rollies, gas-lighting, wanting a medal for calling himself a 'feminist' while actually being a raging misogynist, proclaiming himself a sex-god while repeatedly failing to locate the clitoris, starting sentences with phrases such as 'you probably have't heard of insert incredibly well-known musician/writer/director'.
'He literally said to me 'I'm not like other guys' - total Softboi'
'Oh god... I think I went on a tinder date with that Softboi. He asked me if I'd heard of Tarantino.'
Softboi by reputablesource July 7, 2022
Someone who shows characteristics of an innocent man but in reality is a sociopath.
Samuel is a softboi, I heard he molests animals.
Softboi by totallynothrishikesh December 12, 2023
An E-softboi is pretty much the softboi and th E-boy combined, the aesthetic of the softboi without the fuccboi personality
Girl A: wow, did you just see that E-softboi he is so perfect

Girl B: he is perfect!
E-softboi by Softboi November 17, 2019