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self-help paradox

The age-old conundrum of "people who seek self-improvement vs. people who need self-improvement" --- generally speaking, the people who are conscientious and unashamedly self-examining enough to actively seek ways to improve themselves do not really need to self-improve very much, whereas the people who truly do need to improve themselves will not admit that they even HAVE a self-inadequacy problem, and so they arrogantly/impatiently refuse to seek or accept help in improving their character or behavior (think, the infamous "getters gettin' got" conversation between Madea and Dr. Phil).
Client, to counsellor, at the outset of their weekly meeting: Breaker one-five for reality check --- come on back?
Counsellor, playing along: Yeah, go ahead, Breaker --- reading you wall-to-wall and treetop-tall.
Client: Thanks --- that's a big ten-four, good buddy. Well, I'm in the process of trying to improve myself, and so I thought I'd send a random shout-out over the waves to check my progress. I've been trying to be more sociable and patient and helpful to everyone, visualize things more from their perspective, and so on.
Counsellor: Well, eights and other good numbers to you on THAT one, good buddy --- that's certainly a positive start. Have you tried self-help books?
Client: Oh, a great BIG ten-four THERE, good buddy --- I've read at least a half-dozen of 'em cover-to-cover, and loved every page; the problem, though, is that I never seem to find any new ideas --- most everything in there is stuff I already know about and am actively practicing, so the books just reassuringly confirm the nature and wisdom of my efforts, not provide fresh perspectives for further improvement.
Counsellor: Ah... well, ten-four, good buddy --- I totally "get you" there... the old "self-help paradox", eh?? The only people who'll read those books are ones who don't need 'em!
by QuacksO February 3, 2017
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Self-whore

A person who devotes a large amount of their time to themselves for any reason
"Damn, Adam has stopped hanging out with us and sits plays video games at home all day."
"Yeah, what a self-whore'

" Wow, Katia has been studying a lot recently, she's becoming a self-whore"
"Good for her! I wish I knew how to focus on my work as good as she does"
by CraZboy November 25, 2021
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Self Service Kiosk

Noun

A fictitious idea where customers are supposed to take matters into their own hands and pay their bills but still require assistance of a representative, despite its design and sole purpose of being ease of use.
I don’t know how to use this thing (self service kiosk)
by thegingerbeardman December 3, 2019
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Jeremy's Self-esteem

Where is it, I can't find it anywhere, maybe your local band director made you lose all of this during a 2 hour practice session, but who really knows
What about that visual that Jerem'y neck snapped on
Oh yeah Jeremy always slouches now because that visual destroyed Jeremy's Self-esteem.
Oh yeah, you right
by hugglebuggle124 October 17, 2019
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Self Drag

When you publicly Say a statement or a insult (aka a drag) that applys to yourself either in real life or on the Internet, but usually the Internet.
person 1: damn her pussy stank

person 2: the self drag-
by Kween language inc January 17, 2024
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Self-Triangulate

To check your own understanding and beliefs against the opinions of others
I self-triangulated after their speech and realised the only consistent point was confusion.
by Tosers September 16, 2025
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your younger self

Your younger self:waches paw patrol
You now: *cringes
by i honesty have no idea April 26, 2023
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