according to me, proactive means getting some other significant information, then getting the desired information and then recalling the desired information
Sometimes used before, while, or after having sex. Also in a relationship. When used in this context, it usually means the person wants you to take more control, meaning it's not all about the other person.
"You're fine in bed, but be more proactive"
"I feel like im the man in this relationship, you need to be more proactive"