A loner is someone who becomes one by way of personal experiences that have distanced them from people, preferably by choice. They are likely to be shy and soft-spoken. They enjoy loneliness and anything that's considered a one-person hobby such as video games, Internet & books rather than finding solace in people. They do their own thing, don't really care what others think of them & usually have no interest in pursuing intimate relations with anyone they like of the opposite sex; they prefer platonic connections.
Occasionally, a loner will make friends despite their aversion to people in general. They're the happiest when they're alone, yet they make time to socialize with the friends they have & make new friends. However, they somewhat oppose hanging out in groups; they will be mostly quiet unless they know something that's related to an ongoing conversation. They take interest in things that require intelligence to understand, which can make them successful in the hard sciences, like computer science and engineering. This can lead to nerdy tendencies, which may make the loner appear to be a lonerd, a nerdy loner.
A loner is often misjudged by others who see them as lame, arrogant, weak or just plain weird. Despite that, they tend to concern themselves with their real problems instead of social ones. They are seen as one-of-a-kind and have many hidden talents. Get to know one and you will have a real friend in the making, and, in some cases, an intimate relationship.
Occasionally, a loner will make friends despite their aversion to people in general. They're the happiest when they're alone, yet they make time to socialize with the friends they have & make new friends. However, they somewhat oppose hanging out in groups; they will be mostly quiet unless they know something that's related to an ongoing conversation. They take interest in things that require intelligence to understand, which can make them successful in the hard sciences, like computer science and engineering. This can lead to nerdy tendencies, which may make the loner appear to be a lonerd, a nerdy loner.
A loner is often misjudged by others who see them as lame, arrogant, weak or just plain weird. Despite that, they tend to concern themselves with their real problems instead of social ones. They are seen as one-of-a-kind and have many hidden talents. Get to know one and you will have a real friend in the making, and, in some cases, an intimate relationship.
by ChosenOne9835 July 3, 2009
Someone who see the people in this world and knows they're fucked up, therefore avoiding interaction with them.
Why loner:
Just look around the internet and you will see what i mean. They were those people who used to be my friends when we were kids but it's sad to see what they have becomed now.
Just look around the internet and you will see what i mean. They were those people who used to be my friends when we were kids but it's sad to see what they have becomed now.
by exzau2 May 29, 2009
there's actually freedom in being a loner if you approach it the right way.you can do whatever you want (within reason,of course) and if you come to the realization that you are a loner,then there's no mystery if people are going to like you.enjoy your life and let everyone else worry about living up to
some image.after my last girlfriend broke up with me,i felt free for some reason.sure,i loved my ex,but i didn't HAVE to be friends with her friends,i
didn't have to talk to people she knew,but i didn't like.i didn't have to justify why i liked this music or watched that tv show.or why i had the job i had.
people don't like me? so what! i've been dealing with that since elementary school.if you make friends along the way,cool,but live your life the way
you want.the WORST thing is to have regrets about not being what you wanted to be in life.plus your life is how you design it.you put yourself in good situations,
then logically good things will happen.you hang around bad people and situations,then yeah,bad things tend to happen.and it doesn't matter if you're a loner or not.
some image.after my last girlfriend broke up with me,i felt free for some reason.sure,i loved my ex,but i didn't HAVE to be friends with her friends,i
didn't have to talk to people she knew,but i didn't like.i didn't have to justify why i liked this music or watched that tv show.or why i had the job i had.
people don't like me? so what! i've been dealing with that since elementary school.if you make friends along the way,cool,but live your life the way
you want.the WORST thing is to have regrets about not being what you wanted to be in life.plus your life is how you design it.you put yourself in good situations,
then logically good things will happen.you hang around bad people and situations,then yeah,bad things tend to happen.and it doesn't matter if you're a loner or not.
by satan is my bitch October 27, 2008
There are three types of loners:
1. A person who doesn't know how to connect with others, verbally, or physically, even though they may want to. This is either due to lack of skills, mental social deficiency, or anxiety. The causes of which are myriad.
2. A person who does know how to connect with others, but chooses not to because they view people as either victims or prey. A predator usually operates best alone in the human environment.
3. A person who knows how to connect with others, but others do not know how to reciprocate. This type of person is usually very gifted intellectually and they understand and even take for granted many concepts,social que's,and knowledge as being "common" and "understood." This accelerated comprehension is beyond the others ability to keep pace and scope, so they lose interest. The "loner" here is not attempting to be offputting, they are simple comprehending the world through their mind, as the other is through their mind. Neither is wrong, or even better. It is simply a matter of their being fewer highly intelligent people, therefore making it difficult for them to connect with others. This type of loner is the saddest, because they have so much to offer, but no one can hear them.
1. A person who doesn't know how to connect with others, verbally, or physically, even though they may want to. This is either due to lack of skills, mental social deficiency, or anxiety. The causes of which are myriad.
2. A person who does know how to connect with others, but chooses not to because they view people as either victims or prey. A predator usually operates best alone in the human environment.
3. A person who knows how to connect with others, but others do not know how to reciprocate. This type of person is usually very gifted intellectually and they understand and even take for granted many concepts,social que's,and knowledge as being "common" and "understood." This accelerated comprehension is beyond the others ability to keep pace and scope, so they lose interest. The "loner" here is not attempting to be offputting, they are simple comprehending the world through their mind, as the other is through their mind. Neither is wrong, or even better. It is simply a matter of their being fewer highly intelligent people, therefore making it difficult for them to connect with others. This type of loner is the saddest, because they have so much to offer, but no one can hear them.
Example of 1. A quiet lady who comes into a bar alone, sits down and orders a drink. She allows others to talk to her, but doesn't know what, when or how to say what they want to express. Unclearness regarding the boundaries and potential reactions of the other is at the root of the silence.
Example of 2. A quiet male enters a bar and sits innocuously in the corner, with a low profile and makes no attempt to stand out in any way. They usually pick a strategically advantageous place to watch and listen to the goings on others. He will be seen regularly and will be known as very polite, quiet and easygoing. He identifies targets based on whatever is driving his predatory instinct. He then begins to work on a plan to carry out his attack. They are often the last person anyone would suspect, they have no friends, and they don't talk about themselves at all, beyond the cursory, which is why these types are so very difficult for law enforcement to catch.
Example 3. A man comes into a bar, he smiles and readily strikes up conversations with others. Within a few minutes the other begins to feel a sense of being "lost" in the conversation. There is a feeling of disconnect. Within a few more minutes the man is left to himself. This cycle will repeat itself unless he becomes intoxicated, then much of the intellect is short circuited and some connectivity can occur. This type of person can eventually become a type 1 loner because they are at a loss of exactly how to socially communicate more effectively, and so lose interest. Ironically this is due to the difficulty of it. A loose analogy would be how adult people lose interest in talking to children about adult topics and more often vice-versa. The IQ distance can be as great as a five year old talking to a twenty something, except everyone in this situation, everyone is an adult.
Example of 2. A quiet male enters a bar and sits innocuously in the corner, with a low profile and makes no attempt to stand out in any way. They usually pick a strategically advantageous place to watch and listen to the goings on others. He will be seen regularly and will be known as very polite, quiet and easygoing. He identifies targets based on whatever is driving his predatory instinct. He then begins to work on a plan to carry out his attack. They are often the last person anyone would suspect, they have no friends, and they don't talk about themselves at all, beyond the cursory, which is why these types are so very difficult for law enforcement to catch.
Example 3. A man comes into a bar, he smiles and readily strikes up conversations with others. Within a few minutes the other begins to feel a sense of being "lost" in the conversation. There is a feeling of disconnect. Within a few more minutes the man is left to himself. This cycle will repeat itself unless he becomes intoxicated, then much of the intellect is short circuited and some connectivity can occur. This type of person can eventually become a type 1 loner because they are at a loss of exactly how to socially communicate more effectively, and so lose interest. Ironically this is due to the difficulty of it. A loose analogy would be how adult people lose interest in talking to children about adult topics and more often vice-versa. The IQ distance can be as great as a five year old talking to a twenty something, except everyone in this situation, everyone is an adult.
by eloopmas October 6, 2007
A person who prefers to be by themself. Usually of low self-confidence resulting from severe depression. May have had a hard up bringing. Never fit into a social group (i.e. Preppie, punk, goth, jock, etc.) Not influenced by trends or fads. Has more original likes/dislikes than the common over commercialized asshole running around. Likes things that require INTELLIGENCE to understand. Many would like to have social lives but are rejected by ignorant assholes that don't realize these people actually have feelings, thus putting the loner back even further in social development. Many times called a "psycho" or a "retard", when they're probably the smartest or sanest person in the room!
by cweltsch October 13, 2006
a loner is a smart person that likes to be left alone and or dosnt like the so called friends she or he has most of the time loners are left out because her or his friends changed and dont like the fact that he or she didnt!!
a loner is left out because her or his friends always wants attention and is annoying and her friend dont want to be around her or him so they leave the group that she or he use to hang out with and the other ppl in the group stay with the annoying and attention wantes because she or he is considered "cool" so the one that went away fromj what bothers her or him becomes a loner cuz she is not a falower!!!
by Patisha November 2, 2007
Harun is such a loner; he's always sitting by himself. He even sits by himself at football and basketball games. Oh,well,as long as he's content to be a loner.
by JMC70 February 2, 2017