Competence has nothing to do with mate selection. And I can prove it (conceptually). I've been sitting on this one for a minute. This one is good. You'll like it. Then you can watch Jordan start to try and dial his thing back towards my thing because he's at least clever enough to tell when I'm right.
Hym "No. Jordan. No. The women aren't mistaking fake competence for real competence. They aren't selecting for competence. Mate selection has nothing to do with competence. How do I know? I found the through-line. Blaming narcissistic men for tricking them is what post-wall women do. You sound like a 40 year old childless woman. So, for what to they select? Women select for EXTROVERSION. Predominantly at least. Maybe a little openness if they, themselves, are more open and conscientiousness if they are more conscientious. They select for extroversion and extroversion is the narcissism dimension. Why? Because women are higher in neuroticism and positivity is INFECTIOUS. Which is why 'Love bombing' is something that is hyper effective and is the primary tactic of the narcissist. What happens what your favorite sports team (conscientiousness) wins? You're filled with positive emotion. What happens when you go to a concert or watch a good movie (openness)? Positive emotion. This is why I don't believe that 'game' is real. In the same way that 'self esteem' isn't real. Because people are conflating a meaningless term with extroversion.
Hym "No. Jordan. No. The women aren't mistaking fake competence for real competence. They aren't selecting for competence. Mate selection has nothing to do with competence. How do I know? I found the through-line. Blaming narcissistic men for tricking them is what post-wall women do. You sound like a 40 year old childless woman. So, for what to they select? Women select for EXTROVERSION. Predominantly at least. Maybe a little openness if they, themselves, are more open and conscientiousness if they are more conscientious. They select for extroversion and extroversion is the narcissism dimension. Why? Because women are higher in neuroticism and positivity is INFECTIOUS. Which is why 'Love bombing' is something that is hyper effective and is the primary tactic of the narcissist. What happens what your favorite sports team (conscientiousness) wins? You're filled with positive emotion. What happens when you go to a concert or watch a good movie (openness)? Positive emotion. This is why I don't believe that 'game' is real. In the same way that 'self esteem' isn't real. Because people are conflating a meaningless term with extroversion.
'Game' isn't real because people are conflating a meaningless term with extroversion. The red pill types do the same thing with 'Masculine energy' (Extroversion) and 'Feminine energy' (Neuroticism). Like... You don't have 'energies' you fucking idiot. You hate astrology but you think you have 'energies'. That isn't a thing 🫷😒 Largely sophistical and conflationary, thise guys. So, yeah. They select to try and ameliorate their neuroticism. They want to feel good. And you're assumption that they 'learn how to tell the difference over time" is predicated on an a priori presupposition the the selection criteria doesn't change over time. It's what you need to be true for you to be correct. Which is ridiculous. Young women and old women are selecting for the same thing but young women don't know how to do it right? That's your argument. Wrong. Because over time their options are reduced and they (likely) shift more toward conscientiousness or even agreeableness (situationally). At an earlier age, they make themselves available to men who make them feel positive emotion. At a later age, it's it's harder to make them feel positive emotion because (I would imagine) their neuroticism increases over time. They can not longer rely on that strategy so they have to adopt a new criteria. I'm sure I could go on if I thought about it more but I'm running out of characters so...."
by Hym Iam February 12, 2023
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When a person either thinks you should be more extroverted or says you're just like everyone else, but in reality you're not.
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Some days you want to hang out by yourself, not answer the phone, and make the world go away. The next day you e-mail everyone, schedule lunch with a friend, and try to find an evening gathering to take part in. It may be the phases of the moon, or something you ate; some days are just like that. In actuality, your desire to be with others or to be alone reflects something deep in your personality. Some of us are more comfortable by ourselves or with one or two friends, while others of us crave the crowd and can't stand it when the house is empty or the phone doesn't ring. The following paragraphs describe your fundamental desires about being with other people; whether you are generally an outgoing person or more reserved, if you seek adventures with others, if you tend toward assertiveness or kindness.
When it comes to Extraversion you are:
OUTGOING
Words that describe you:
Friendly
Gregarious
Full of Life
Unreserved
Kindhearted
Talkative
Emotional
Spontaneous
Vigorous
A General Description of How You Interact with Others
People light you up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, you bring your energy and your friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and you come away pumped up. You can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And you're good at it.
You know how to communicate. You listen well, the first rule of good communication, and then, when it's your turn, you talk vigorously and with animation; in your uninhibited way you give all that you've got to the encounter.
In situations where you feel very safe, when you know and trust the people you're with, you can be very kindhearted and unrestrained. You let your affection for and pleasure in being with others flow freely. You're wide open And when you get back this same kind of unrestrained warmth, you are deeply satisfied. Because you are so friendly and full of life, these are among your favorite moments.
Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You
As much as you like being with other people, not everyone will like being with you. Hard to believe, but your gregarious and warm manner is not everyone's cup of tea. Some people are more cautious than you in personal encounters; others think the work place should be more formal, more impersonal than is comfortable for you. Still others, who may want more of the spotlight, will find you too much to compete with once you get your lively and outgoing self in motion.
Here's another word of caution. You've been at this warm and open way of relating for a while, but for some people it's a brand new experience. They may be protecting something inside themselves, some fear or guilt or shame, or some private part of their story that they're not yet ready to share. Your openness might threaten them, and they'll take a step back and be reluctant the next time to engage you in the kind of exchange you find so easy and satisfying but they find so dangerous.
Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You
Many people, most probably, will be glad to be in the room you're in. At work you make the environment livelier and the banter more interesting, so the time moves swiftly and the experience is a happier one. At home you keep everyone connected because you engage each of them in the conversational action, and as a result they are more connected as well with one another. You make home a warmer and more interesting place for everyone who lives there.
You might also be helpful to some people. There are those who need to talk but aren't very good at it. They don't know how to begin the kind of conversation that would allow them to share whatever is in their personal stories that they'd like or need to talk about. You could make that easier for them with your way with words. Some people just need an example and a little encouragement to come out of their shell and get into the greater fun and personal connectedness that will make their lives so much more satisfying. Again, you might be just the right person to make that happen for them.
So almost everyone will be glad to be with you, you make life more interesting for those you live and work with, and you could help some of your friends who need just a little encouragement to open up and find in themselves the kinds of energetic and warm connections that you thrive on. Not that you are a pushover; in fact, you are often quite assertive. In taking care of yourself you also make sure that others are engaged and energized.
Some days you want to hang out by yourself, not answer the phone, and make the world go away. The next day you e-mail everyone, schedule lunch with a friend, and try to find an evening gathering to take part in. It may be the phases of the moon, or something you ate; some days are just like that. In actuality, your desire to be with others or to be alone reflects something deep in your personality. Some of us are more comfortable by ourselves or with one or two friends, while others of us crave the crowd and can't stand it when the house is empty or the phone doesn't ring. The following paragraphs describe your fundamental desires about being with other people; whether you are generally an outgoing person or more reserved, if you seek adventures with others, if you tend toward assertiveness or kindness.
When it comes to Extraversion you are:
OUTGOING
Words that describe you:
Friendly
Gregarious
Full of Life
Unreserved
Kindhearted
Talkative
Emotional
Spontaneous
Vigorous
A General Description of How You Interact with Others
People light you up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, you bring your energy and your friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and you come away pumped up. You can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And you're good at it.
You know how to communicate. You listen well, the first rule of good communication, and then, when it's your turn, you talk vigorously and with animation; in your uninhibited way you give all that you've got to the encounter.
In situations where you feel very safe, when you know and trust the people you're with, you can be very kindhearted and unrestrained. You let your affection for and pleasure in being with others flow freely. You're wide open And when you get back this same kind of unrestrained warmth, you are deeply satisfied. Because you are so friendly and full of life, these are among your favorite moments.
Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You
As much as you like being with other people, not everyone will like being with you. Hard to believe, but your gregarious and warm manner is not everyone's cup of tea. Some people are more cautious than you in personal encounters; others think the work place should be more formal, more impersonal than is comfortable for you. Still others, who may want more of the spotlight, will find you too much to compete with once you get your lively and outgoing self in motion.
Here's another word of caution. You've been at this warm and open way of relating for a while, but for some people it's a brand new experience. They may be protecting something inside themselves, some fear or guilt or shame, or some private part of their story that they're not yet ready to share. Your openness might threaten them, and they'll take a step back and be reluctant the next time to engage you in the kind of exchange you find so easy and satisfying but they find so dangerous.
Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You
Many people, most probably, will be glad to be in the room you're in. At work you make the environment livelier and the banter more interesting, so the time moves swiftly and the experience is a happier one. At home you keep everyone connected because you engage each of them in the conversational action, and as a result they are more connected as well with one another. You make home a warmer and more interesting place for everyone who lives there.
You might also be helpful to some people. There are those who need to talk but aren't very good at it. They don't know how to begin the kind of conversation that would allow them to share whatever is in their personal stories that they'd like or need to talk about. You could make that easier for them with your way with words. Some people just need an example and a little encouragement to come out of their shell and get into the greater fun and personal connectedness that will make their lives so much more satisfying. Again, you might be just the right person to make that happen for them.
So almost everyone will be glad to be with you, you make life more interesting for those you live and work with, and you could help some of your friends who need just a little encouragement to open up and find in themselves the kinds of energetic and warm connections that you thrive on. Not that you are a pushover; in fact, you are often quite assertive. In taking care of yourself you also make sure that others are engaged and energized.
by knucklewound March 25, 2009
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"Estroversion can get me into trouble if I'm not careful." or "I've noticed I become quite estroverted at certain times of the month."
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