De ting is whatever want it to be. If De ting is a girl, its a girl. If De ting is a chicken, its a chicken. It can and will become anything in the world.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.