Assbanter is the bantering with someone you consider to be an ass at the time. It's a form of dialog that may be considered passive aggressive, or argumentative in nature.
It can be an exchange of light, playful, teasing remarks; or may be be good-natured raillery. It may also be a tolerant form of dialog where each person strives to be the bigger ass.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.