Romantic tolerance
Where relational interaction crosses the line which is considered exclusively for marriage/romance by an individual.
This tolerance varies from person to person, and can be determined by; what creates sexual desire/tension.
OBVIOUSLY: In a friendship where one person's romantic tolerance is lower, the relationship should naturally adhere to the lower standard.
(If they wish to remain platonic)
In a ROMANTIC relationship, if one person's tolerance is lower than the other, they are more likely to experience arguments and insecurity over exclusivity.
This is because the individual with the LOWER standard assumes that their partner has the same 'boundaries'/'tolerance' as themselves and become offended when their partner surpasses this limit.
Ex.
Person A: "You're cheating on me!"
Person B: "I literally just hugged them. Why are you so upset?"
In this scenario, Person A associates hugging as something that 'universally' creates sexual tension/desire because it is true for them personally.
So they label Person B as having broken romantic exclusivity.
However, Person B has a higher 'romantic tolerance' and sees hugging as an innocent form of interaction and socialising.
In reality, there was no betrayal.
This tolerance varies from person to person, and can be determined by; what creates sexual desire/tension.
OBVIOUSLY: In a friendship where one person's romantic tolerance is lower, the relationship should naturally adhere to the lower standard.
(If they wish to remain platonic)
In a ROMANTIC relationship, if one person's tolerance is lower than the other, they are more likely to experience arguments and insecurity over exclusivity.
This is because the individual with the LOWER standard assumes that their partner has the same 'boundaries'/'tolerance' as themselves and become offended when their partner surpasses this limit.
Ex.
Person A: "You're cheating on me!"
Person B: "I literally just hugged them. Why are you so upset?"
In this scenario, Person A associates hugging as something that 'universally' creates sexual tension/desire because it is true for them personally.
So they label Person B as having broken romantic exclusivity.
However, Person B has a higher 'romantic tolerance' and sees hugging as an innocent form of interaction and socialising.
In reality, there was no betrayal.
"...She got butterflies every time a guy spoke to her. She had a very low romantic tolerance, as apposed to her sister who could easily have guy-friends without an issue."
MORE EXAMPLES:
(These may or may not apply to your personal romantic tolerance)
Do any of the below cause you to get butterflies/catch feelings or feel betrayed by your partner if they do them with someone else?
- Hugging
- Talking to the opposite sex/of your sexual orientation
- Following people on social media
- Holding hands
- Heart to heart conversations
- Flirtatious joking
- Kissing
- Emotional attachment
- Making eye-contact (yes, this is too romantic for some cultures and individuals)
MORE EXAMPLES:
(These may or may not apply to your personal romantic tolerance)
Do any of the below cause you to get butterflies/catch feelings or feel betrayed by your partner if they do them with someone else?
- Hugging
- Talking to the opposite sex/of your sexual orientation
- Following people on social media
- Holding hands
- Heart to heart conversations
- Flirtatious joking
- Kissing
- Emotional attachment
- Making eye-contact (yes, this is too romantic for some cultures and individuals)
Romantic tolerance by Chachanga September 12, 2020
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