by Duttmunk May 24, 2011
A non-standard, personal, androgynous pronoun that can substitute for 'him' or 'her'. See also e and hets.
by =Wirick January 8, 2005
You: "Where have you been? You said you'd be home by 6:00!"
The person you were waiting for: "Why're you all het up? I stopped and got my lip waxed is all."
The person you were waiting for: "Why're you all het up? I stopped and got my lip waxed is all."
by KurtNYC August 11, 2010
A gay man who seduces (or tries to seduce) straight men.
Sometimes a het hunter will only go after straight men; sometimes het hunting is more of a hobby.
Sometimes a het hunter will only go after straight men; sometimes het hunting is more of a hobby.
Andy Samberg, on the het hunter he plays in the movie "I Love You Man": "My character knows men really well, and knows straight men really well... Because he only fucks them."
by ChuffyChuffnell February 18, 2009
When you grow up immersed in a culture of compulsory heterosexuality and labour under the misapprehension that you must be straight. Het lag typically lasts for years or decades.
It is particularly prevalent among those who do not experience a strong sense of romantic or sexual attraction to any sex or gender, and therefore have less obvious counter-evidence to the assumption of heterosexuality than those who experience strong same-sex/same-gender attraction. This is typically exacerbated by the lack of LGBTQIA+ education in schools and lack of awareness in many communities.
However, it is not exclusively experienced by people who identify under the asexual and/or aromantic umbrellas. Anyone whose sexuality is not the exclusively heterosexual 'default' that widespread social norms teach them to expect may experience het lag.
Originally coined in a tweet by Jared Pechacek (@vandroidhelsing):
"Mistyped it as 'het lag' so now we have a term for when you grow up thinking you're straight."
It is particularly prevalent among those who do not experience a strong sense of romantic or sexual attraction to any sex or gender, and therefore have less obvious counter-evidence to the assumption of heterosexuality than those who experience strong same-sex/same-gender attraction. This is typically exacerbated by the lack of LGBTQIA+ education in schools and lack of awareness in many communities.
However, it is not exclusively experienced by people who identify under the asexual and/or aromantic umbrellas. Anyone whose sexuality is not the exclusively heterosexual 'default' that widespread social norms teach them to expect may experience het lag.
Originally coined in a tweet by Jared Pechacek (@vandroidhelsing):
"Mistyped it as 'het lag' so now we have a term for when you grow up thinking you're straight."
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