A dyke’s version of ‘hanging around’, where twofemales, in the first 10 minutes of meeting each other, decide the conversation’s not working and what they really want is to straight down to business: aggressively rubbing their vulvas - ‘hams’ - together on the sofa.
Mark: hey Steph, boring weekend huh? You get up to anything? *awkwardly smiles*
Stephanie: you know, the yoozh, just hamming around with Daisy.
A dyke’s version of ‘hanging around’, where to lesbians, within the first 10 minutes of meeting each other, aggressively rub their vulvas (‘hams’) together on the sofa.
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”