'Fems’ – a gender non-specific term, not unlike the English colloquial term guys, which can be used to describe a group of people.
Derived from: the French word femme meaning woman or the Anglo-French term of the Law, 'feme' also meaning woman. Much like the term 'guy', when used to refer to two or more people, the gender restriction is lifted such that one or more of the people may be male.
In the LGBTQ+ community, specifically gay men, the term "no fats no fems" refers to only being interested in connecting with other men that are "in shape and masculine". "No fats" means nobody overweight and "no fems" means nobody that has a feminine sounding voice, feminine behaviors or characteristics. This is a discriminatory phrase that is commonly used on dating apps, such as Grindr, when trying to romantically connect with other gay men.
The combination of the words female and wholesome to become the opposite of Femdom. In which a woman is comforting and friendly rather than mean and domineering but she also maintains a sexual presence.
Friend 1: how have you been mate?
Friend 2: not too good, I've been having a rough day, I think I'll go see a Femsome and try and cheer myself up. She's very comforting you know.