1. The “My Way or the Highway” Ashfaq
Ashfaq has a strict approach to how he thinks relationships should work. He’s quick to tell you how things “should” be and gets frustrated when your needs don’t match his own. From your friends to your alone time, everything seems to feel like a threat to him unless it revolves around him. He tries to frame his view as “caring,” but ultimately, it feels like he’s the only one who gets to set the terms.
Special Move: The “You're Selfish” Card – Whenever you set a boundary or put yourself first, he’ll hit you with accusations of being “self-centered” or “entitled,” making you question whether you’re the problem for wanting basic respect.*
Symptoms of Exposure:
Feeling like you’re never doing “enough”
Constantly re-evaluating if your needs are “too much”
Suppressing parts of yourself to avoid conflict
Ashfaq has a strict approach to how he thinks relationships should work. He’s quick to tell you how things “should” be and gets frustrated when your needs don’t match his own. From your friends to your alone time, everything seems to feel like a threat to him unless it revolves around him. He tries to frame his view as “caring,” but ultimately, it feels like he’s the only one who gets to set the terms.
Special Move: The “You're Selfish” Card – Whenever you set a boundary or put yourself first, he’ll hit you with accusations of being “self-centered” or “entitled,” making you question whether you’re the problem for wanting basic respect.*
Symptoms of Exposure:
Feeling like you’re never doing “enough”
Constantly re-evaluating if your needs are “too much”
Suppressing parts of yourself to avoid conflict
You: “I really need some time with my friends.”
Ashfaq: “So I’m just supposed to sit here while you go live your life without me? You always put yourself first.”
Ashfaq: “So I’m just supposed to sit here while you go live your life without me? You always put yourself first.”
by Roaches123 October 31, 2024
The “Emotionally High-Stakes” Ashfaq
Every small issue seems to become a relationship referendum. Ashfaq can’t seem to handle everyday conflicts without threatening the whole relationship. He’ll pull you in close, promising he’ll change or make things better, only to turn around and get angry when things don’t go his way. Even small disagreements turn into big deals, making it feel like the relationship is on the line every time.
Special Move: The Over-the-Top “I’m Done” Declaration – In any argument, he’s ready to throw in the towel to get you to back down, only to come back later as though nothing happened.*
Symptoms of Exposure:
Constant anxiety that any small thing will lead to a breakup
Feeling emotionally drained, like you’re constantly on edge
Second-guessing yourself to avoid setting him off
Every small issue seems to become a relationship referendum. Ashfaq can’t seem to handle everyday conflicts without threatening the whole relationship. He’ll pull you in close, promising he’ll change or make things better, only to turn around and get angry when things don’t go his way. Even small disagreements turn into big deals, making it feel like the relationship is on the line every time.
Special Move: The Over-the-Top “I’m Done” Declaration – In any argument, he’s ready to throw in the towel to get you to back down, only to come back later as though nothing happened.*
Symptoms of Exposure:
Constant anxiety that any small thing will lead to a breakup
Feeling emotionally drained, like you’re constantly on edge
Second-guessing yourself to avoid setting him off
You: “I just want a bit more space sometimes.”
Ashfaq: “You know what, fine. I don’t even care anymore if this is how you feel.”
Ashfaq: “You know what, fine. I don’t even care anymore if this is how you feel.”
by Roaches123 October 31, 2024