The American English equivalent to the common, polite Thai expression, "mai pen rai", meaning "it doesn't matter"; an easily accessible communication tool for re-grounding in the midst of a circular, escalating, non-productive, manipulative, or highly emotional argument.
When one partner calmly terminates with "Whatever" (humorous, non-aggro Valley Girl accent, one eye roll, and heavy sigh acceptable), it allows both participants to remember that their separate "ego chatter" and the subsequent discomfort of those primitive "fight or flight" endocrine hormones surging now through them - is an illusion, all Maya.
"Whatever" is the new Western mantra to allow those in our culture to wake up, surrender, let go of the futile need to be "right", to sit in the silence of the moment and return to the underlying reality of love, unity, and connection. Words are increasingly inadequate in this age of “The Quickening.” We have evolved much faster than our spoken language. A simple, compassionately delivered "Whatever" can still that inner turmoil, allow deep breathing to return, help each partner to regain balance and perspective, and reconnect to each other in a more profound and constructive way, through touch, music, art, dance, and lovemaking. Try it! Although many define the term as negative, harsh, cowardly, or maddening, it doesn't have to be! It's not that way in Thailand. Look at it from a different angle.
When one partner calmly terminates with "Whatever" (humorous, non-aggro Valley Girl accent, one eye roll, and heavy sigh acceptable), it allows both participants to remember that their separate "ego chatter" and the subsequent discomfort of those primitive "fight or flight" endocrine hormones surging now through them - is an illusion, all Maya.
"Whatever" is the new Western mantra to allow those in our culture to wake up, surrender, let go of the futile need to be "right", to sit in the silence of the moment and return to the underlying reality of love, unity, and connection. Words are increasingly inadequate in this age of “The Quickening.” We have evolved much faster than our spoken language. A simple, compassionately delivered "Whatever" can still that inner turmoil, allow deep breathing to return, help each partner to regain balance and perspective, and reconnect to each other in a more profound and constructive way, through touch, music, art, dance, and lovemaking. Try it! Although many define the term as negative, harsh, cowardly, or maddening, it doesn't have to be! It's not that way in Thailand. Look at it from a different angle.
Valerie: Todd, when I'm calmly trying to tell you for the umpteenth time what my basic needs are, why must you always turn the conversation around, change the subject, and start blaming me for something I'm not even talking about? Why is it always about you and your needs?
Todd: About my needs!? Oh! Like when you had to stay in bed all morning and too damn lazy to move, you started yelling at me at the top of your lungs when I was in the kitchen, screaming at me to take the trash cans out to the curb? Who is the bad guy here!! Huh? Can you ever take responsibility for your shit?!!
(heated exchange back and forth going nowhere)
Valerie: Whatever...
Valerie: (Wordless now, she reaches out to touch and hold Todd's hand, then embraces him, gets up and turns some soft music on, lights a candle, smiles at Todd, lights some incense. Todd starts to relax and they both shrug and start laughing and then...)
Todd: About my needs!? Oh! Like when you had to stay in bed all morning and too damn lazy to move, you started yelling at me at the top of your lungs when I was in the kitchen, screaming at me to take the trash cans out to the curb? Who is the bad guy here!! Huh? Can you ever take responsibility for your shit?!!
(heated exchange back and forth going nowhere)
Valerie: Whatever...
Valerie: (Wordless now, she reaches out to touch and hold Todd's hand, then embraces him, gets up and turns some soft music on, lights a candle, smiles at Todd, lights some incense. Todd starts to relax and they both shrug and start laughing and then...)
by kamakinky March 12, 2010
A term that describes the annoyance of one party to another party's incompetent act / word / thought / being / family / dog / saber-tooth tiger. Also suggesting the emotions of "who gives a crap". Also can be used nicely as well!
Party One " Hey im ganna take 5"
Party Two " You guys arent aloud to take 5!"
Party One " Well we are!!!"
Party Two " Whatev's!"
Party Two " You guys arent aloud to take 5!"
Party One " Well we are!!!"
Party Two " Whatev's!"
by Santina/Shiela/Rachel April 12, 2008
When the wife asks you to do something and you are unable to commit to it. When you don't want to accept it or reject it.
John: The wife wants us to go to her folks house, but I really don't want to go, but I can't say no, what do i do
Ben: Just 'whatever it' man and move on
Ben: Just 'whatever it' man and move on
by steveski90210 November 23, 2009
by neva November 26, 2003
Whatever to the power of hundred.
When you don't just want to say whatever, or whateva (cus it's so yo) and say Whatevs.
When you want to say whatever whilst talking down this moronic world.
When you don't just want to say whatever, or whateva (cus it's so yo) and say Whatevs.
When you want to say whatever whilst talking down this moronic world.
Jake: Let's all suck up to the boss all week, so we can get that much-needed vacation!
Me: Whatevs! I'll get that vacation anyway
Me: Whatevs! I'll get that vacation anyway
by shesturningblue December 20, 2010
definition consistent with whatever but with the addition of the 's', making the plural version (whatevers), gives more emphasis to the meaning. whatevers is used as an adjective to describe the insignificance of something or it can be used to express a more passive form of disgust or loathing for something.
"dude, that gay biker gang that just left took the last of our beer."
"fuck. that shit is so whatevers, man."
"wesley, why are you still wearing nail polish? halloween ended three weeks ago."
"whatevers, dude. whatevers."
"fuck. that shit is so whatevers, man."
"wesley, why are you still wearing nail polish? halloween ended three weeks ago."
"whatevers, dude. whatevers."
by karmacreep November 13, 2006
Use this word when you wish to self-depreciate, brush off an unwanted compliment, or just sound really, really cool.
by Slamdarius March 22, 2006