flatterbash

To flatter a person with an honorable truth to such an extreme that it causes those hearing to object to the honorable truth. The flatterbasher is usually jealous over some trait , often inner beauty or a possession of the victim that they know appeals to others and they want the focus on themselves, so they take an honorable truth about the victim and stretch it so far out of proportion in such a way that it makes the victim embarrassed and others see the truth as false and no longer see it as their honorable quality. Flatterbashers do this infront of others like group texting, social media, gatherings, work parties or meeting, even among families! Compliments are healthy commendation. Flattery is for positioning for gain. Flatterbashing goes above typical flattery. It causes those hearing to think or say the opposite about the person. If the victim declines or denies the flattery the flatterbasher will persist or escalate their abusive tactic. This way the victim looks bad if they accept AND if they reject the so called compliments.
Men, women, school bullies, coworkers, anyone can Flatterbash out of jealousy or to level themselves over the threat or insecurity they feel or imagine their target/victim emminates or holds over them. It can be used by ANYONE. It is often employed by narcissists. and those who are the leaders of clicks to keep their "followers".

Female Victim: "We were group texting and all of a sudden she started to flatterbash me with 'Your eyes are so beautiful! OMG! I can't hear what you're saying because I can't stop focusing on your eyes! They are gorgeous! I think about them when I'm eating...!' I was so embarrassed!"
Those Hearing: "She's not THAT beautiful." "So and So is prettier than she is." "She's only pretty with makeup on." "She's not 'ALL THAT'."

Male Flatterbasher: "Dude, your wheels are awesome! Where did you get that paint?! Your car takes the stripes off the street! I can't eat, Dude, I'm heartsick! Nothin' like it, Dude!"
Victim: "It's decent. Get's me there. You trying to flatterbash me?"

by Malisande April 21, 2020

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