It’s where you make sure someone won’t do something before they make a decision.
Like Dude 2 is concerned about dude 1’s health so he is making sure dude 1 doesn’t do anything to put his health in danger
Like Dude 2 is concerned about dude 1’s health so he is making sure dude 1 doesn’t do anything to put his health in danger
Dude1: I’ve bee feeling really down lately...
Dude2: Well, at least don’t go back to cutting
Dude1: I won’t, thank you for your Pre-Concern
Dude2: Well, at least don’t go back to cutting
Dude1: I won’t, thank you for your Pre-Concern
by Eggs and sausage August 17, 2020
Get the Pre-Concernmug. When a person gaslights you into feeling or looking vulnerable or needy for their fake help and hence, inferior. It's a way of domineering over you by establishing a power dynamic where they get to control your life, order you around and you're supposed to feel grateful to be treated like a dog. May be part of a smear campaign, triangulation and poisoning the well of your general reputation. Common to narcissists but everyone has done this at some point, we usually grow out of it after school. They will interrogate you for slander and ruin under the guise of politeness. Social sabotage and attempted social murder.
e.g. "I'm just worried about you" or "are you okay? you seem XYZ" Classic form of concern trolling, weaponised by controlling men and women who otherwise have no recourse to control you in that situation. May speak to you like an abusive parent to a naughty child. Boundary violation is the purpose.
"People have been talking about you so I just came to check how you are." Triangulation method, they're the problem. They are smearing you.
"You look terrible/tired" or "You seem so sad, secretly, can I help?" Interference and belittlement gaslights.
"Are you SURE you're okay?" wearing you down with resistance to their interrogations. Happens in the workplace too.
"People have been talking about you so I just came to check how you are." Triangulation method, they're the problem. They are smearing you.
"You look terrible/tired" or "You seem so sad, secretly, can I help?" Interference and belittlement gaslights.
"Are you SURE you're okay?" wearing you down with resistance to their interrogations. Happens in the workplace too.
by paint88 June 30, 2024
Get the concern trollingmug. One who tries to shame or discredit by feigning offense on behalf of groups to which they don’t belong. Critically, a concern troll never contributes anything to improve matters. The criticism is the point, not righting the wrong.
Concern Troll: “You didn’t put alt text on your image! You’re just another ableist pig who hates the unsighted community!”
OP: “I’m sorry. What alt text would be helpful to a blind person?”
Concern Troll: “How should I know? Do you see ‘free accessibility training’ in my profile? Educate yourself on your own time!”
OP: “I’m sorry. What alt text would be helpful to a blind person?”
Concern Troll: “How should I know? Do you see ‘free accessibility training’ in my profile? Educate yourself on your own time!”
by Rootybeggar April 23, 2025
Get the Concern trollmug. by Arminkshipper July 20, 2024
Get the Concernmug. Hym "That's not my concern EITHER, actually! MY concern is that YOU'RE the guy who's SUPPOSED to be concerned with THAT THING SPECIFICALLY! THAT'S THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY! THAT IS WILD!"
by Hym Iam July 21, 2023
Get the That's not my concernmug. How Red Green and his Possum Lake buddies view some stupid gripe dat they have with da local-government policies.
Harold Green finds the so-called "lodgeitimate concerns" of his uncle's macho cronies to be either invalid, selfish, or laughably minor.
by QuacksO October 17, 2025
Get the lodgeitimate concernmug. by Thecoolestguyeverrrrr February 17, 2025
Get the Re concernsmug.