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Chemistry
We know chemistry when we feel it with another person, but we don't always know why we're drawn to one person over another. Is it just a cascade of neurotransmitters and hormones conspiring to rush you toward reproduction? Is it attraction borne of a set of shared values? Or is it bonding over specific experiences that create intimacy?
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
Attraction may be influenced less than lust by physiological factors -the appeal of someone's features, or the way they make you laugh—but your body is still calling the shots at this stage, pumping you full of the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, effecting your brain in a way that's like the way illicit substances do.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
Chemistry by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Mirroring
Mirroring or The chameleon effect describes our human instinct to “empathise and affiliate” with other people.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
Also referred to as mimicry, it can occur subconsciously. Your spouse or crush may be overseas in China, and you could find yourself subconsciously travelling nearby to Chinatown, New York for example, as a way of being with them. Mirroring consists of a wide-ranging spectrum including, but not limited to, dress, gestures, vocal pitch and tone, posture, distance, eye contact, distance, and body orientation.
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
Mirroring by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Rhodesia
The old name for Zimbabwe. Zimbabwe is a landlocked country in southern Africa with a surface area of 390,757 square kilometers. In combination with its relatively small size, its also relatively sparsely populated. When calculated with the 2019 population of 14.65 million people, the population density of Zimbabwe is 37.5 people per square kilometer, which ranks 142nd in the world. Harare (formerly known as Salisbury) is the capital with a population of 1.5million.
Rhodesia the home the one of a kind brown skin girl,
her skin just like pearls,
the best thing in the world,
Never trade you for anybody else.
her skin just like pearls,
the best thing in the world,
Never trade you for anybody else.
Rhodesia by _The Secret_ January 15, 2020
Anavrin
Nirvana spelt backwards. Also the store on the Netflix series "You".
Beck can be seen wearing an Anavrin shirt spelt backwards in the series.
It has uncanny similarities to the L.A store chain Erehwon.
Beck can be seen wearing an Anavrin shirt spelt backwards in the series.
It has uncanny similarities to the L.A store chain Erehwon.
Anavrin
Anavrin by _The Secret_ January 8, 2020
Not forever
Its hard to explain the empty feeling in your heart. Why does it hurt so much? Why wont it go away.
You had hopes and dreams with a certain person but they'd continuously hurt you. Was it their way of pushing you away? Why couldn't they just leave the relationship?
You made yourself vulnerable to this person and they broke you down time after time. The pain was unbearable. You tried to ask why they did these things to hurt you, but they'd laugh at you and call you sensitive. The unanswered questions are the pain now.
Someone far more special will soon come into your life, someone who brings you up, who cherishes the small things, who doesn't feel entitled, and who brings the best out in you not the worst.
You had hopes and dreams with a certain person but they'd continuously hurt you. Was it their way of pushing you away? Why couldn't they just leave the relationship?
You made yourself vulnerable to this person and they broke you down time after time. The pain was unbearable. You tried to ask why they did these things to hurt you, but they'd laugh at you and call you sensitive. The unanswered questions are the pain now.
Someone far more special will soon come into your life, someone who brings you up, who cherishes the small things, who doesn't feel entitled, and who brings the best out in you not the worst.
The pain is not forever. It was just a lesson along the way. It's okay to be vulnerable. It's all worth it in the end.
Not forever by _The Secret_ December 12, 2019
The one that got away
“The one that got away” is an ex who has an exalted place among your past loves. She is the one you focus about. This ex was a good person, your breakup didn't change your opinion about this. She's someone who deserves love in their lives, someone another person would be lucky to be with.
The one that got away by _The Secret_ November 13, 2019