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by _The Secret_ April 15, 2020
Get the Eminem mug.A soulmate is comprised of certain elements. These elements combined make you feel entirely whole, healed and intact, like no piece is missing from the puzzle.
It's something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It's a profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.
You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.
You just get each other. You can finish one another's sentences without any thought. You might experience this with your best friend or your family members, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.
You fall in love with one anothers flaws. Even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. You'll accept both the great and awful tendencies we all have.
It's intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. Even during negative episodes, you're focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.
You're mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. You might message each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.
It's something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It's a profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.
You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.
You just get each other. You can finish one another's sentences without any thought. You might experience this with your best friend or your family members, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.
You fall in love with one anothers flaws. Even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. You'll accept both the great and awful tendencies we all have.
It's intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. Even during negative episodes, you're focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.
You're mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. You might message each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.
Your soulmate will always make you feel secure and protected. They will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side.
You can't imagine your life without each other. A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can't imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.
You can't imagine your life without each other. A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can't imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.
by _The Secret_ July 24, 2019
Get the Soulmate mug.A feeling of chronic emptiness and loneliness. Abandonment of ourselves, and not listening to our own hopes and desires.
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
Tell yourself positive things.
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
by _The Secret_ August 14, 2019
Get the Desolation mug.When you gaze into the nightsky in thee early hours of the morning with that someone dear to your heart and see several shooting stars and sheet lightning in the distance, and a funny feeling comes over you. You feel butterflies inside, like a sign from God.
When you develop an infatuation for someone you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you. It doesn't need to be a good reason. Taking photographs under the night sky, for example. Now, in the long run, that's just the kind of dumb, irritating habit that would cause you to split up. But in the haze of infatuation, it's just what you've been searching for all these years.
by _The Secret_ March 30, 2020
Get the Under the night sky mug.by _The Secret_ December 25, 2019
Get the gn mug.An annual event in most educational jurisdictions, ostensibly for the presentation and discussion of educational research developments, and to satisfy educationists' professional development requirements. However, the true function of the seminars, held over weekends in five-star hotels, is to foster an atmosphere of intellectual curiosity, to kindle group learning experiences, and foment pedagogical stimulation between teaching colleagues, away from the constricting influence of family, work, and routines.
Judith paused and turned to stare at a sparrow fluttering under the eaves outside the window. She could not remember how many men were in the spa bath that night in her luxury hotel suite on the last night of the teachers' conference, her memory of the watery group encounter was just a champagne and cocktail-fuelled haze. All she knew is that now, four week's later, the pregnancy test was positive. How could she explain things to her husband? They hadn't had relations for years. Were there five men, or six? That ancient bearded professor had been at the back of the queue, she remembered that...
"Miss, oh,Miss.." one of her literature students calling out snapped her out of her reverie....
What the hell was she going to do now?
"Miss, oh,Miss.." one of her literature students calling out snapped her out of her reverie....
What the hell was she going to do now?
by _The Secret_ April 15, 2020
Get the teachers' conference mug.Mirroring or The chameleon effect describes our human instinct to “empathise and affiliate” with other people.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
We intentionally imitate subtle aspects of each other's mannerisms, postures and facial expressions. We also imitate each other's speech patterns, including inflexions, talking speed, and speaking time. Sometimes we even take on the foreign accent of the person to whom we are talking to or thinking about, sometimes leading to embarrassing consequences.
Also referred to as mimicry, it can occur subconsciously. Your spouse or crush may be overseas in China, and you could find yourself subconsciously travelling nearby to Chinatown, New York for example, as a way of being with them. Mirroring consists of a wide-ranging spectrum including, but not limited to, dress, gestures, vocal pitch and tone, posture, distance, eye contact, distance, and body orientation.
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
Research has shown that people increase mimicry of another person when affiliation goals exist compared to when not meaning if you are engaged in a task with other people, or working on a collaborative project, it is more likely that mimicry will be displayed. However, the odds are that no one will realize it. Mimicry is often one aspect of being charismatic, being persuasive, building rapport, and having a positive impact on someone. On the other hand, even if you aren't aware you're mimicking, it can be an expression of great fondness. Repeating their words, catchphrases and accent, even drinking and eating the same foods as them is a tell tale sign you have chemistry or strong feelings
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
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