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teachers' conference
An annual event in most educational jurisdictions, ostensibly for the presentation and discussion of educational research developments, and to satisfy educationists' professional development requirements. However, the true function of the seminars, held over weekends in five-star hotels, is to foster an atmosphere of intellectual curiosity, to kindle group learning experiences, and foment pedagogical stimulation between teaching colleagues, away from the constricting influence of family, work, and routines.
Judith paused and turned to stare at a sparrow fluttering under the eaves outside the window. She could not remember how many men were in the spa bath that night in her luxury hotel suite on the last night of the teachers' conference, her memory of the watery group encounter was just a champagne and cocktail-fuelled haze. All she knew is that now, four week's later, the pregnancy test was positive. How could she explain things to her husband? They hadn't had relations for years. Were there five men, or six? That ancient bearded professor had been at the back of the queue, she remembered that...
"Miss, oh,Miss.." one of her literature students calling out snapped her out of her reverie....
What the hell was she going to do now?
"Miss, oh,Miss.." one of her literature students calling out snapped her out of her reverie....
What the hell was she going to do now?
teachers' conference by _The Secret_ April 15, 2020
Eminem
Eminem by _The Secret_ April 15, 2020
Under the night sky
When you gaze into the nightsky in thee early hours of the morning with that someone dear to your heart and see several shooting stars and sheet lightning in the distance, and a funny feeling comes over you. You feel butterflies inside, like a sign from God.
When you develop an infatuation for someone you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you. It doesn't need to be a good reason. Taking photographs under the night sky, for example. Now, in the long run, that's just the kind of dumb, irritating habit that would cause you to split up. But in the haze of infatuation, it's just what you've been searching for all these years.
Under the night sky by _The Secret_ March 30, 2020
Crony
The person you want in your life forever, someone you built a strong connection with through an extremely rough time. You grew together, and although you had hard times together you both learnt and grew stronger as people.
You said some hurtful things to her/him, but none of it you meant. You'd made false allegations to hurt her/him without thinking of how that might affect them. It most likely started out of pain from something they did early on in the relationship. Your frustration has turned to some hurtful things.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
Crony by _The Secret_ March 25, 2020
Ask no questions hear no lies
Guy: Have you cheated?
Girl: ask no questions hear no lies
Guy: wtf, so you have?
Girl: (says nothing)
Girl: I'm not even sorry
Guy: **heart breaks** again
Girl: ask no questions hear no lies
Guy: wtf, so you have?
Girl: (says nothing)
Girl: I'm not even sorry
Guy: **heart breaks** again
Ask no questions hear no lies by _The Secret_ March 25, 2020
Chemistry
We know chemistry when we feel it with another person, but we don't always know why we're drawn to one person over another. Is it just a cascade of neurotransmitters and hormones conspiring to rush you toward reproduction? Is it attraction borne of a set of shared values? Or is it bonding over specific experiences that create intimacy?
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
Attraction may be influenced less than lust by physiological factors -the appeal of someone's features, or the way they make you laugh—but your body is still calling the shots at this stage, pumping you full of the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, effecting your brain in a way that's like the way illicit substances do.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
Chemistry by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Love Language
There are 5 Love Languages.
More than one love language can apply to any one person.
Understanding is the key to forming a long lasting bond and relationship.
Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Your eyebrows look great today".
Gifts – a gift says, “she thinks of me".
Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
listening.
Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
More than one love language can apply to any one person.
Understanding is the key to forming a long lasting bond and relationship.
Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Your eyebrows look great today".
Gifts – a gift says, “she thinks of me".
Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
listening.
Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
Love Language by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020