QuacksO's definitions
Refers to either of two equally-unhealthy practices that seemingly "skips a place" in the chain of progression, but has a comparably-negative result --- Person A acts as a financial "crutch" for Person B, allowing Person B to continue his dissipative lifestyle:
(1) Where you do not beg resources directly (i.e., "first generation" enabling) from a financially-solvent person who is sick of your mooching, but you instead ask your "benefactor" to extend charity to your equally "spongy" offspring (i.e., you shamelessly take advantage of the person's "family man" nature by using the pathetically-manipulative "cute cherub-faced kiddos" or "they'll only be young once, so I wanna give them a decent childhood" pressure-excuse), or
(2) You don't request a certain amount of money --- say, twenty bucks --- from the disgruntled "provider" for "excessive/addictive/self-abusive" products (i.e., tobacco, alcohol, lottery tickets, unnecessary "pretty things", etc.) that he refuses to provide you with, but you instead ask him for that same twenty bucks to purchase "basic necessities" like simple groceries or household/repair products that he HAS agreed to help you out with obtaining... the catch, of course, is that you spend your OWN twenty bucks on those other unhealthy/senseless purchases instead of spending it on the healthful basics that your friend is giving you money for, and so in the end you are still getting him to make it possible for you to continue your unwise/unhealthy lifestyle.
(1) Where you do not beg resources directly (i.e., "first generation" enabling) from a financially-solvent person who is sick of your mooching, but you instead ask your "benefactor" to extend charity to your equally "spongy" offspring (i.e., you shamelessly take advantage of the person's "family man" nature by using the pathetically-manipulative "cute cherub-faced kiddos" or "they'll only be young once, so I wanna give them a decent childhood" pressure-excuse), or
(2) You don't request a certain amount of money --- say, twenty bucks --- from the disgruntled "provider" for "excessive/addictive/self-abusive" products (i.e., tobacco, alcohol, lottery tickets, unnecessary "pretty things", etc.) that he refuses to provide you with, but you instead ask him for that same twenty bucks to purchase "basic necessities" like simple groceries or household/repair products that he HAS agreed to help you out with obtaining... the catch, of course, is that you spend your OWN twenty bucks on those other unhealthy/senseless purchases instead of spending it on the healthful basics that your friend is giving you money for, and so in the end you are still getting him to make it possible for you to continue your unwise/unhealthy lifestyle.
Be wary of anyone who agreeably says, "Okay, fine --- I won't ask you for any more money for unhealthy stuff; I'll use my own funds for them. But please do give me some money for those "basic necessities" that you said you WOULD buy for me." Well, don't you see --- that's really the same destructive deal when all's said and done --- oh, sure, the person may indeed not be "directly" asking you to buy him cigarettes, but the person is merely using the last of his **own** money for them, and then asking you for money to buy the groceries that he himself could have purchased if he hadn't spent his last dollar on coffin-nails! It doesn't really matter where your added funds are "injected:" into the person's budget --- it's still just second-generation enabling!
by QuacksO June 8, 2018
Get the second-generation enablingmug. Where an arrogant/disgruntled/overly-confident client "turns the tables" and attempts to counsel the psychologist.
Dr. Phil: Let's talk about your childhood.
Madea (cheerfully): Let's talk about YOUR childhood.
Dr. Phil. Talkin' about MY childhood isn't gonna help YOU out. Okay, let's try a different route. Do you sleep well at night?
Madea (with an impish breezy smile): Do YOU sleep well at night?
Dr. Phil (passing his hand over his face in a "I can't handle this --- NOBODY could talk any sense into this woman" gesture): Look --- I ain't gonna be able to help ya if you're gonna practice reverse psychology here!
Madea (cheerfully): Let's talk about YOUR childhood.
Dr. Phil. Talkin' about MY childhood isn't gonna help YOU out. Okay, let's try a different route. Do you sleep well at night?
Madea (with an impish breezy smile): Do YOU sleep well at night?
Dr. Phil (passing his hand over his face in a "I can't handle this --- NOBODY could talk any sense into this woman" gesture): Look --- I ain't gonna be able to help ya if you're gonna practice reverse psychology here!
by QuacksO December 25, 2016
Get the reverse psychologymug. I get time off my parole for always showing up promptly at my weekly progress-check-in meetings, so I always call an hour beforehand to ask my wimpy-a**ed case-worker for his present cowardenates, since many times HE forgets about da "where, when, and what" regarding da stuff dat HE'S supposed to be doing, and so I MYSELF am often obliged to remind HIM of our scheduled appointments, and then go rushing all around da county to link up wif him so dat we can go over my past week's life-improvement activities and he can sign off on my paperwork!
by QuacksO February 24, 2023
Get the cowardenatesmug. To attempt to be allowed alternative procedures/actions to the presently-requested/expected arduous/undesirable task by plaintively whining to those around you.
Stan Laurel was an expert squeaky-voiced whimperviser whenever Hardy snortingly protested that their present ridiculous debacle was yet "another nice mess you've gotten me into".
by QuacksO March 16, 2020
Get the whimpervisemug. What you verbally give your work-buddy when something you're attempting goes right, but you're currently "all yucky-messy" from the dirty/disgusting job you're presently engaged in, and so you don't wanna soil him by actually slapping his still-clean palm (i.e., he's not actually handling the greasy/muddy/gloopy items the way you are, but he's still providing needed assistance; perhaps he's aiming a trouble-light, occasionally actuating switches/buttons and/or operating other controls to test the device you're repairing, holding items like drapes or hoses/cables up out of the way so that you don't accidentally soil/damage them, etc.) with your icky hand. "I'll slap palms wif ya later, Pal, after I get washed up some --- consider yourself high-fived for now!"
A high-five rain-check can be a similar situation to a delayed hug, handshake. back-clap, etc... in all of these instances, you are merely postponing an appreciative/affectionate/encouraging/celebratory gesture until a more appropriate/convenient time. If you strongly wish to have the pleasant action administered right away, however --- such as if you feel that the person deserves immediate reward/gratification because of the exceptional effort/bravery he put out, or if he has to leave shortly --- a proxy-hug can sometimes be an adequate/reasonable option, provided there is an agreeable bystander present whom you can request to "do the honors" in your place.
by QuacksO August 29, 2018
Get the high-five rain-checkmug. Da "pee-pattern symbol" in da snow dat gets created by da natural movement of yer "nozzle" --- i.e., da urine-stream "starts out strong" and initially lands several feet away due to yer full and "pressurized" bladder, gradually progresses around in a sideways-curve, and then forms a straight line back towards you as da stream-force tapers off and so yer lulu progressively droops till it's eventually pointing almost straight downwards; it then makes a final separate "dot" of yellow in da spot just ahead of yer feet when you perform a "sphincter stripping" --- i.e., you tense yer bowel-muscles to "get out da last of it" --- at da end.
When visiting friends' houses where there is often a bit of a line to da WC and so I may need to unobtrusively "take it outdoors", I always move a few feet away from da porch before taking a whiz, so dat I don't gross anyone out by their finding a yellow question-mark too close to where they'd need to walk.
by QuacksO January 23, 2025
Get the yellow question-markmug. A property-owner's-loan contract with terms that are so grievous and/or long-term that the only time you will likely ever be relieved of it is after you "shuffle off".
A clever early-'80's cartoon-example of a morgueage: a scowling bill collector is shown speaking to a "Here lies John Smith" gravestone: "And so I am warning you for the final time, Mr. Smith --- if we do not receive your payment within two weeks, we are gonna hafta take some STERN STEPS! Do you hear me, Mr. Smith?! STERN STEPS!"
by QuacksO May 21, 2018
Get the morgueagemug.