When a contract with a client you don’t like has officially ended, but they keep you on anyway—giving you that sweet, extra “gravy” money. However, since you’re no longer contractually bound to their every whim, you start doing things your way, adding your own “spice” to the work instead of just serving up their bland requests.
"My contract with that nightmare client ended last month, but they begged me to stay. Fine. But now? I’m gonna spice the gravy—no more hand-holding or sugarcoating."
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. Penguin Books,1992. p. 38)
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.